How to breastfeed discreetly!!

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How to breastfeed discreetly!!
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 8:32am
http://www.teachmorelovemore.org/frame.asp?newlink=http://breastfeeding.com/nursing_in_public/rules.html&return=/EarlyCareEduDetails.asp


Any of you bf'ers offended by this?? It gives point by point what to do and not to do....by a bf'er. Do any of you follow it?? Would you follow the guidelines now??


christine


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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 1:39pm
Most of this seems to be common sense to me. As someone who BFIP anytime I'm out, just about, this is really quite duh. I hope I haven't offended anyone who this didn't seem obvious to, but to me, this is just one of those things that makes sense. I think that just about the only people who've seen my nipples while BFing were anyone who came to ME during the first few days in the hospital and at home (when she rarely would latch on). I always pull my shirt up, even if I'm wearing a button-down shirt. I've tried both ways, and it's easier to be discreet, at least for me, when I don't have to mess with buttons. I just reach up under my shirt, undo my bra, put Kenzie across my lap, pick her up with one hand as I pull my shirt up as she comes up with the other. Also, we're much better at nursing on one side than the other when we're out and about, so we RARELY nurse on the akward side when out...only if I'm sitting down in a restaurant.

What CRACKS me up is when we go out to eat, we ask for a table, so that there's space if we need to nurse the baby. Then, they put us at the very front, very center table, and with a male server...and they think we make them uncomfortable, lol! Now, none of that bothers me, but I do know that a lot of people are uncomfortable bfing, and you'd think that they would put us off to the side, or in the back or something. It just cracks me up. I've gotten one nasty look, and I had one person by my dinner for bfip. We're on the go a lot. Kenzie LOVES to be out (hates goign, but loves being), and if I have things to do, or just take her to the park, I'm not going to run home and hide to bf, although I don't just strip. This may we're going to be going on vacation, and bfing in a swimsuit could get fun....LOL! I guess that's what towels are for. Maybe I won't need to worry about it. Anyway, I digress. About the "rules": I suppose I follow them, although Kenzie won't tolerate nursing in the sling anymore, but like I said, they seem rather common sense to me.

Raechel, nursling Kenzie, 9/19/02

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 2:49pm
i agree...the tips in the article are SO obvious. maybe i would've found it helpful when my son was new? i don't know, i pretty much do all those things..so, no there's nothing that offended me.

p.s. motherwear makes great nursing suits...also, i found that my tankini worked well...lift from the bottom.

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 3:10pm
I agree with the others - the points the author makes all seem pretty obvious to me. Another tip I've heard is to practice in front of a mirror. It really helps to see yourself as others see you.

I follow all those tips, but I've never seen them spelled out like that. When I started to bfip, that all just seemed like the common sense thing to do.

Perhaps to a new mama who's nervous about bfip, this would be helpful.


Sarah and nursling Adam 17.5 months.

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 8:09pm
I agree with some of it, and do it. I don'T turn away to latch on. Ever. Don't see the point...it makes me think people will think I'm ashamed of it. Nope.

I do wear bf-friendly clothes mostly and lift up, rahter than buttoning down.

One exception, the only time I unbuttoned down a dress that wasn't a bf dress, was at one of our Allaitement Québec meetings, not in front of other new moms, but between the volunteers of AQ only. I didn't feel out of place there, but I wouldn't normally do it that way "in public".

Fio.

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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 7:35am
Here's an idea-a tankini. The tops are usually long enough to give you as much coverage as a tank suit (*especially* important if you're still holding on to a few baby pounds, or even a few non-baby pounds like me LOL), but then you can pull up the top instead of having to wrestle the strap of a tank suit down. You'll still need a towel, but at least the entire top half of your body won't be uncovered.

Thought I'd just throw that one out!

Brook

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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 10:10am
good point..i don't think i turn away much. but i do maintain eye contact/keep my head up.
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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 11:36am
I keep eye contact too if I'm looking at someone, now, with a 5-mos old (or 3-yo, depending on the situation!) but with a newborn I do concentrate much more on the latching.