I Didn’t Breastfeed … 8 Reasons Why I Don’t Regret It

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
I Didn’t Breastfeed … 8 Reasons Why I Don’t Regret It
Sun, 08-11-2013 - 11:24am

Check out the reasons why I don’t feel bad about not being able to breastfeed.

1. Grayson is Healthy

While Grayson has had some major health issues, they are NOT related to breastfeeding. In fact, if I did breastfeed, he wouldn't do as well on the growth chart and he would be in constantly pain with his severe acid reflux. Knowing that Grayson is happy and loves his bottle so much makes me feel better about not being able to breastfeed.

2. I Am Not Depressed

Now, that doesn't mean the person next to me breastfeeding is depressed, but one study found that women who disliked breastfeeding were 42 percent more likely to experience postpartum depression than those who truly enjoyed it. We have to remember that it is just as important to take care of the mother, not just the baby. If you are thinking to yourself that you just can't do it anymore, call your doctor and stop. You don't need to feel that pressure as mom.

3. No Mom Fail Here

I love my kids so much. They are my life! But breastfeeding is demanding and can be very difficult for some. Once I found out that this just wasn't going to work due to Grayson's sugar issues, I let it go. I wasn't stuck on the thought that I failed as a mother.

4. Health Issues Win

Grayson's sugar level issues at birth caused a problem with breastfeeding due to the lack of calories. He also has severe acid reflux, as well as allergies. When he saw a specialist, they felt that he was allergic to my milk. As soon as we made the switch to hypoallergenic formula, he was instantly happier. Which means, the entire family was happier. No more projectile vomiting. No more screaming. Some mothers spend so much time being frustrated and worrying over breastfeeding when they could have been spending those precious moments with their child instead. You have to remember to do what is best for all.

5. Formula is NOT the F Word

I don't feel bad for feeding my baby a bottle with formula. While yes, best is breast... it's my baby, my choice, and I felt the need to do what is BEST for him even if that wasn't by breast.

6. I’m Proud of My Decision

I couldn't breastfeed and instead of feeling guilty, I learned to embrace motherhood with the decision I made. When you become a mom, I can promise tough choices are ahead and you need to learn how to overcome your guilt and remember you know what is best for your child.

7. I Don’t Feel Guilty

I have no regrets about my decision not to breastfeed. I love the fact that my husband doesn't have to rely on me to feed Grayson. I love that I don't have to stress about pumping or sore nipples. I don't feel guilty for not being able to breastfeed or the fact that medical reasons weren't on our side and we have to formula feed. When my 2nd youngest Sadie was in the NICU, she had to be formula fed and I was fine with that. As I tell my husband, happy wife, happy life! And when momma is happy that sweet baby is just a happy too! And well–that truly is all that matters!

8. Breastfeeding Isn’t My Full Time Job

When you begin breastfeeding, you will discover your new full-time job. I remember with my first child, I breastfed for a few weeks and I clocked so many hours just sitting and I hated it. I noticed my spot on the couch was even sinking deeper because of all the hours I spent sitting on my butt. It was like she was on my boob–all day long. Don't get me wrong, it's an amazing thing to be able to cherish and share those special moments and take them in while you're breastfeeding your child, but spending hours upon hours with an attachment just wasn't for me–especially in my line of work. I was okay with this decision and realized I was smiling a lot more when I didn't feel the pressure to breastfeed.

Read more: http://www.babble.com/baby/i-didnt-breastfeed-and-heres-8-reasons-why-i-dont-feel-bad-about-it/

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010

Welcome MusicLover! It's great to see you posting in the debate - I hope you will be able to stick around and share your perspective.

The above post was an article I found online. My older boys are in their late 30's, my youngest is 25 years old. So much has changed over the years - I was an outlander when I breastfed my 2nd and third child. It is wonderful to see so many at least try to breastfeed nowadays.

I remember those days of postpartum depression. Having your husband's support and assistance must have been helpful!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I don't think that anyone should feel guilty over any decisions they make for their own child as long as they aren't doing something to hurt the child.  Especially since there were medical reasons for you not to breastfeed--it doesn't sound like you really have a choice.  I chose not to breastfeed (my DD is 24 and my son almost 18)--honestly at that time, it really wasn't as popular as it is now.  I can't remember any of my younger cousins doing it.  I only had 3 mos. maternity leave and then had to go back to work full time.  I would not have been able to pump at work since I am a lawyer who does litigation--you can't really stop in the middle of court to go pump.  I thought it would be more difficult to get the baby used to breast feeding and then have to switch them over to bottle feeding--maybe it would have been ok, but that was just my thought at the time.  I also admit that I was happy to be able to let my DH have his turn at feeding so I could get more rest.  I actually found it difficult to adjust to having a baby--I had never really had any experience taking care of a baby and looking back, I probably had some post partum depression.  It was pretty overwhelming.