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| Mon, 07-07-2008 - 7:50pm |
I chose to formula feed my daughter. I love her with all my heart, and am a great mother (contray to what other mothers will say because I didn't BF). I gave my daughter the best 9 months of my life when pregnant...eating healthy, excerising, quit smoking, quit drinking, yada yada yada and I give her everything in this world now but yes I was selfish and formula fed and do not regret one second of it. I'm sorry that my husband, mother, sister can help with feedings and make a bottle themselves... I can go out for a night and not worry about having a glass of wine or I can go to the mall and not have to whip my boob out in the middle of the common area. And my daughter is extemely healthy and happy. I don't think Im going to hell because I formula feed nor do I feel I am a bad parent. My husband and I agreed formula was the way to go for us. I'm sure there are plenty of things BF'ing mothers do that other parents wouldn't agree with but that doesnt mean you should be crucified for it. I think other mothers should get off their high horse about bf'ing and realize its just not for everyone and you're not

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We also swam in a public swimming pool without life jackets. But these days, at the public pool almost every kid (even older ones)
Here is the most recent example of someone saying you will probably be smarter if BF.
My daughter was three and she wore a hockey helmet.
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How can you **possibly** say that with certainty?!? The only thing we can say with 100% accuracy in this debate is that a BF child will never be harmed by formula. You can absolutely NEVER be certain that your kids are "ok." The risks are not behind them; they can manifest themselves at any time.
>>The problem with breastmilk is they could never bottle it and sell it on a drug store shelf. Plus drug companies would never make money off of breastmilk. They are sure trying to duplicate it. IMO they never ever will. It would be great if they could. It would be really great!<<
I'm not going to look for the links, but the formula manufacturer scientists agree with you that breastmilk can never be duplicated - kinda like duplicating blood.
In many ways it would be great to bottle breastmilk because of its abilities. BUT the idea of it makes me cringe. Profiting on breastmilk, ugh.
I am a big believer in breastfeeding (at the breast). IMO, much of the wonder of breastfeeding is in the act itself. There comes a point for me when the physiological properties of breastmilk, as powerful as they are, seem to be the only part of breastfeeding that is debated. Sure, it's easiest, with all the science etc. However, the symbiotic relationship where the mom's body creates antibodies for the infant, etc. it's every bit as important (and maybe even more) for me.
"Well I wouldn't use cloth diapers so I don't really care if I could throw it in the wash or not."
That wasn't the point. The point was that there's a drastic difference in the composition of bf vs ff bowel movements (from the drastic difference in the composition of the food), and it's quite easy to see.
"I also never had any problems with constipation in any of my kids they all pooped more than once a day."
That's your experience, but that doesn't seem to be representative of the whole.
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"ok then why did you have children?"
Why I had children is not up for debate. You put your reasons up here, so I'm debating it.
"What answer doesn't seem creepy to you?"
Here's a few:
1. I had children because I love children.
2. I had children because I got pregnant unexpectedly.
3. I adopted children because there are lots of kids who need a good home and I can provide one.
4. I had children because my parents were bothering me for grandchildren (stupid IMO, but not creepy).
"I've devoted my life to raising my kids so please watch what you say."
I am watching what I say. I have said repeatedly how your posts seem to me, and have asked for clarification. The fact that it seems creepy to me is not mean, unfair, or a violation of TOS. I believe I am not the only one who has expressed this sentiment (so I don't think I'm totally out on a limb here), and I have been careful to say that this is how I have interpreted it, not that this is how it really is. I turn this around on you and say that you should be more careful with your use of personal examples. If you don't want me to debate the content, form, or style of your personal anecdotes, I suggest that you not put them up here for review. I assure you that, in the event I post up my own personal examples, you are free to debate anything said therein.
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"To me BF is something that I couldn't do period!"
I think "wouldn't" is a more appropriate term. Technically, you probably could have, but you chose not to.
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"Yes formula introduces a risk that doesn't have to exist and so does several other things. How is one ok and one not? Your point is that it isn't feasible for you to grow your own food, mine is that I couldn't handle BFing. So basically we're both introducing risks that don't HAVE to exist, we just do it it different ways for different reasons."
I just don't see it as a zero-sum game. Technically, we should probably do both. I do the best I can on the front you discuss, buying organic and locally-grown as much as possible, and avoiding processed food as well (mostly because it's usually made of junk).
But I have to say that this red herring isn't going to work just like the other red herrings you've thrown up here. The comparison isn't perfect (a little like comparing cloth diapering to living without electricity), but I see your point. That said, it doesn't justify your decision to ff.
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