I Formula Feed

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I Formula Feed
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 7:50pm
I chose to formula feed my daughter. I love her with all my heart, and am a great mother (contray to what other mothers will say because I didn't BF). I gave my daughter the best 9 months of my life when pregnant...eating healthy, excerising, quit smoking, quit drinking, yada yada yada and I give her everything in this world now but yes I was selfish and formula fed and do not regret one second of it. I'm sorry that my husband, mother, sister can help with feedings and make a bottle themselves... I can go out for a night and not worry about having a glass of wine or I can go to the mall and not have to whip my boob out in the middle of the common area. And my daughter is extemely healthy and happy. I don't think Im going to hell because I formula feed nor do I feel I am a bad parent. My husband and I agreed formula was the way to go for us. I'm sure there are plenty of things BF'ing mothers do that other parents wouldn't agree with but that doesnt mean you should be crucified for it. I think other mothers should get off their high horse about bf'ing and realize its just not for everyone and you're not

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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:24am

Speaking of trailers, my dad brings up occasionally that he thinks using a bike trailer is very dangerous. OK, less dangerous than a child seat mounted on a bike but not much. His theory being, if you are hit by a car there is little to protect you and the child in the trailer. Of COURSE that is true but I wonder (going off on a tangent here) how much the risk of that is mitigated by sticking to side streets with fewer cars, using a flag to be very visible, being more cautious etc. Plus I am less likely to fall asleep on a bike than driving a car (which I find very sleep-inducing sometimes).

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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:35am

Just a question...you've never had to trapse out at 11 pm to find a can of formula b/c you forgot to get it earlier? I may be the epitome of forgetfulness but I am constantly having to do that for one thing or another that I have forgotten. We have lots of food in the house but last night I had to go out to get rice and eggs (the latter for today's breakfast) late at night. I can't see how I would remember a can of formula more easily than the rest of the stuff I regularly forget to get and end up needing. Except the rest of the family can survive in general, if I am missing one or 2 "essential ingredients" here or there. I may have no flour right now to make bread (need to buy that now!) but I have hamuburger buns for supper that are store bought and plus, if I didn't, we could eat pasta, last night's rice purchase, potatoes...or some other starch instead of bread items. We can live without bread. Bread is nice for morning stuff for breakfasts too but we can get by on say bacon and eggs with no bread, or cereal, or porridge. A baby can't survive without the formula so you have no choice but to trapse back to the store and get more if you have managed to forget it.

I lived in the country at my Il's place for 2 years (where they have 55 thousand square feet and grow gardens...) and that was something I *hated* for the entire 2 years was there was no grocery store for 20 minutes' drive so it was a royal PITA every time I had to go out to get stuff and I usually managed to forget a few things I *really* wanted at some point in time or another and end up going 3-4 times a week still. Now that I'm in the city and have a grocery store essentially right across the street, it is much easier to get those little things I forget periodically. I counted my lucky stars with my forgetfulness that I couldn't "forget to buy BM" or "forget to bring it with me" (I've forgotten the diaper bag and cell phone and baby wipes before and sometimes had to purchase new items while out...ok maybe not a new cell phone but the dipes or wipes or even a spare pj...) but I can't take my breasts off the night before, put them on the bedside table and forget to pack them for the next day's outting...they have to follow me! :-) I was out at a store with a friend and her DD the other day, and her DD was tired and cranky and wanted her bottle but it was all the way across the parking lot and friend didn't want to go out and get it (probably a 10 minute round trip with how far away the car was)...so her DD was distracted by us one way or another until we were done shopping (this is an 18 mos old, to clarify, not a newborn...) and I couldn't help thinking that if it had been my kid I could have just sat down somewhere and nursed and would never have forgotten taht one essential item, the milk to feed her with and calm her down and maybe put her to sleep so she could lay in the stroller insead of being cranky!













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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:36am

I knew it! Tang is GOOD for you. ;-) I shoudl be drinking it as my iron supplement! ;-)













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Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:39am

So is your point that BFers tend to go out and buy highly processed food as weaning foods for their infants while FFers tend to go and grow their own organic food???

Not quite sure what you're getting at there...if both groups have similar rates of eating fresh wholesome foods vs. eating processed "bad for you foods" then there is no comparaison in the post-weaning ages...the only comparaison is in the milk they are given as newborns and young infants.













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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:49am

LOL I know what you mean about being forgetful.

 

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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 12:47pm

So is your point that BFers tend to go out and buy highly processed food as weaning foods for their infants while FFers tend to go and grow their own organic food???


No I never said that.

 

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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 1:49pm

When I lived in the country, there was NO WHERE anywhere near with a 24 hour store or a store open until midnight. The closest place would be a 2 hour drive basically. *ugh*. ;-)













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Mon, 07-14-2008 - 2:59pm

 


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Mon, 07-14-2008 - 3:18pm

But the point is, both BFing families *and* FFing families are taking those risks w/ processed/non-organic foods, but *only* the FFing families are taking the risks w/ formula.


Yes that is true.

 

Shari mother to

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In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 3:26pm

I guess we disagree on how "avoidable" a risk is.....most of this thread has been discussing the fact that it's extraordinarily difficult to eat only what you produce yourself, so some manufacturing/processing etc is, IMO *un*avoidable w/ foods, whereas I think formula for *most* situations *IS* totally avoidable.


Also, there's the degree of risk.

 


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