I Formula Feed

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Registered: 07-07-2008
I Formula Feed
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 7:50pm
I chose to formula feed my daughter. I love her with all my heart, and am a great mother (contray to what other mothers will say because I didn't BF). I gave my daughter the best 9 months of my life when pregnant...eating healthy, excerising, quit smoking, quit drinking, yada yada yada and I give her everything in this world now but yes I was selfish and formula fed and do not regret one second of it. I'm sorry that my husband, mother, sister can help with feedings and make a bottle themselves... I can go out for a night and not worry about having a glass of wine or I can go to the mall and not have to whip my boob out in the middle of the common area. And my daughter is extemely healthy and happy. I don't think Im going to hell because I formula feed nor do I feel I am a bad parent. My husband and I agreed formula was the way to go for us. I'm sure there are plenty of things BF'ing mothers do that other parents wouldn't agree with but that doesnt mean you should be crucified for it. I think other mothers should get off their high horse about bf'ing and realize its just not for everyone and you're not

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Registered: 10-04-2003
In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 3:34pm

I guess we disagree on how "avoidable" a risk is.....most of this thread has been discussing the fact that it's extraordinarily difficult to eat only what you produce yourself, so some manufacturing/processing etc is, IMO *un*avoidable w/ foods, whereas I think formula for *most* situations *IS* totally avoidable.


As strongly as many of the posters here feel about how difficult it would be to produce your own food, is how I feel towards me BFing.

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 06-17-2007
In reply to: krsd0403
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 4:00pm

"My main point was an example that so do BFers. I don't see how there is that big of a difference."

There is quite a big difference, actually. One is something that the vast majority of people should be able to do reasonably, while the other is not. Consider this argument:

Situation: gas is expensive
Solution One: conserve gas by carpooling or grouping outings
Solution Two: walk to work

Breastfeeding is much more in-line with Solution One in its own scenario, because most people can reasonably do it. Most people cannot reasonably walk to work every day. Your argument about growing your own food is more like Solution Two in that it is not something most people can reasonably do.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 1:28am
I think that formula feeders and breast feeders are all alike. I read something once that the biggest benefit to breast milk is the method of delivery. They say that the skin to skin contact has the biggest impact over all(here is a thought just take your shirt off!). There was a huge study about this in a medical journal I read some years ago. I will say this if it is worth anything I have been looked down upon, and actually verbally confronted by 2 mothers for formula feeding my now 3 month old baby girl. I was heart broken by the first bashing at the mall. You see my DD has a very rare Genetic Metabolic disorder called Galactosemia(google me). If she has any type of milk including breast milk she will die. After personally dealing with our horrible diagnosis and all the pain that goes along with that to be confronted for not breastfeeding in a public place just shows how ignorant SOME(not all) people are. You should have seen the look on the ladies face when I told her what she had. I think that the debate will go on no matter what research says or does not say. I just hope that this post makes anyone who thinks that breastfeeding is best and maybe just maybe subconsciously looks down on someone for pulling out powder.....that it is not always a choice and that sometimes it is a must. I actually had someone tell me the other day that maybe if I Breastfed that she would not have this condition or how breast milk might help it. I am just here to say that as a formula feeder(not by choice) that it really does happen people confronting you about your choice(or not). I hope that people will finally just leave it all alone and who cares how people feed a child.
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Registered: 04-13-2008
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 2:25am

I am sorry for your daughter for having inherited this condition, and I can totally feel how sad it is for you to be denied the opportunity to breastfeed. I can see how you must feel about not even having a choice.

It is very nosy for anyone to have said that to you, and doubles the upset you must feel. In your case, with a child with galactosemia, a special formula is totally necessary for survival, and the person who said breastfeeding would have been better for this particular condition is indeed misinformed.

This debate board is not about looking down on people. This debate board looks at the substances, and debates them. I think that you would agree that as a general rule, breast mil is going to be a better substance than formula, even though not in your baby's case.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 8:42am

We have a "standard disclaimer" on this board, and takes into account the small number of women actually physically unable to produce milk (e.g. insufficient glandular tissue, or s/p mastectomy) and the small number of babies for whom breastmilk is *not* acceptable, and galactosemia is one of those cases.

 


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Registered: 08-27-2007
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 10:49am

Yes I too would put myself at risk over my child.

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Registered: 10-04-2003
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 11:00am
No I'm not ignorant of the evidence.

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 06-26-2008
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 11:10am

Sooooo..... the "logic" is that since one thing might have risk, that makes another (unrelated) thing "just fine"?

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Registered: 10-04-2003
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 11:27am

Sooooo..... the "logic" is that since one thing might have risk, that makes another (unrelated) thing "just fine"?

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 06-26-2008
In reply to: krsd0403
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 11:41am

"I believe each mother has the right to choose which risks she introduces her child too.

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