If you could...

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 5:48pm

If you could either breastfeed OR be pregnant with your child, but not both, which would you prefer? For purposes of debate, the child would be yours biologicallly. Is it more important to you to have the opportunity to breastfeed or to be pregnant with a child?

Why do you think you might prefer one over the other?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 1:51am

Easy answer.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 3:15am

That is a lovely story. I find it amazing how even though things were so tough at first with breastfeeding, that you were able to get through those difficulties and now find it so good for both you and the baby. Interesting because unfortunately, so many are ready to stop if things are not working out in the first few weeks, and I think some assume it will always be that difficult. I hope people get to see stories like yours and realise that it is worth continuing, even if it seems difficult at first. I had some early difficulties but nothing like yours. I also found Q & P very difficult in the 80s with a small inefficient hand pump. People do assume though, that it was all easy street.

Teresa

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 7:04pm
Ooh this is a tough one. I loved pregnancy except the last four weeks where I couldn't wait for baby to be out. I LOVED feeling the kicks and punches. Labour and delivery overall was a good experience although induction wasn't fun. We opted for the surprise and it was magical when the doctor said we had a girl. That moment is hard to compete with.

On the other hand I LOVE breastfeeding. We worked hard to make it happen. 11 weeks of EPing then nipple shields and a lovely LC got DD on board. I look back on those early weeks and don't know how I managed.
When she first latched without a shield and nursed to sleep, I cried. She is 9.5 months old now and has BFing down pat. Almost every day we have a different moment that just makes me melt inside. When I was pregnant I was very much on the fence about BFing. I felt like I owed it to the baby and that if she didn't have a problem nursing then I'd survive it for a year and move on. I was so wrong. I know everyone experiences something different but this is just so right for us. I'm now hoping to make it at least to 2 years and in a perfect world would love to go longer (nurse through next pregnancy then try tandem). I've done both and for me the convenience of sharing the feedings pales in comparison to the ease of breastfeeding.

It's a close call but breastfeeding wins out. Pregnancy was great for me but it can't last much more than 41 - 42 weeks. If things continue to go well, I can enjoy BFing for years :-)
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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 01-12-2012 - 5:32pm

Thank you for your point of view. It is very interesting that even though you have had a lot of difficulties with breastfeeding, the pluses have obviously made it all worthwhile for you and your little one.

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Registered: 02-16-2008
Thu, 01-12-2012 - 10:54am

Let me start by saying I loved being pregnant! Sure, throwing up several times a week for 9 months (every day for 6 months) wasn't fun, I really had an easy time of it. I had a easy, fast labor.

Breastfeeding was NOT easy for us. I EPed for the first month, got him back to the breast using a nipple shield. Between 2 months and 4 months he only gained 7 oz. At my 8-5 job, I had to pump 5x a day (every 2 hours for 25 minutes). We had to supplement with some formula. Family said I was being selfish because I wouldn't share feedings. Even when I EPed, only DH or I gave bottles. We had thrush. Even at 16 months, DS doesn't have a great latch.

That said, I would much rather breastfeed. I have a strong desire to adopt, and will definitely consider adoptive breastfeeding depending on the age of the child. I can't imagine giving up the closeness I feel with DS, and the ease of nursing him. W&P adds in a new layer, but for me, it's worth it.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 01-12-2012 - 8:43am

Though I feel like my DD has been more ill than I would have expected given she's breastfed....I guess I can assume she would have been more sick had

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 12:02pm

I couldn't agree with you more....i thought I'd follow your outline to discuss my points of view on this question:

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 2:03am
Since you don't specify how this baby would be born, I going to assume that it would be via a method that posed no additional health risks or any other negative other then possibly being deprived the experience of pregnancy which not everyone sees as a negative. If that is the case, then I would easily take being able to BF over experiencing PG as BF'ing has significant health benefits and I enjoyed it much more then PG, though I didn't exactly hate being PG.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 6:48pm

You have given a very long thoughtful answer. Thanks. I found it interesting to read your point of view.

I can agree that pregnancy never gave me too many warm feelings.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 6:38pm

That would be interesting to read, Catherine.

Teresa

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