If you had a time machine...

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If you had a time machine...
Sun, 09-05-2010 - 1:11pm
If you could somehow travel back in time to the PG you before the birth of your 1st child and talk to this younger you about breastfeeding or formula feeding, what would say to the pre-mommy you about breastfeeding or formula feeding in order to improve your first BF'ing experience or make it a successful one (if it wasn't originally), if anything?


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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 2:23pm

I would have told myself to stop breastfeeding earlier with DD,


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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 4:00pm
I would have told myself that my mom would be a better support to me in childbirth and with post-childbirth matters including feeding than my then husband, and I would have warned myself about that nurse who was going to come in and scare the living bejesus out of me at 2am by declaring ODD had lost too much weight and that when she threw the bottle of formula at me I was free to throw it right back at her and tell her I'd wait for the morning consult with the LC. Other than that, I'd tell myself I know what I'm doing and it'll be all fine.

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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 10:15pm
Don't worry so much about needing to breastfeed. There will be significant problems. Any colostrum you can give is good, and any breast milk he gets from the feedings is helpful. Pump when you can but don't stress over pumping recommendations since pumping more frequently did not increase the overall amount pumped. Try the herbal teas. Give the SNS a chance. Take care of yourself more--more sleep, more food, tell the guests to go away. In the end, when it is not working, let it go. Don't let the frustrations cloud the joy of a new baby.

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Mon, 09-06-2010 - 4:59am

Even when you are totally whacked after a horrendous labour, and they are stitching you up for well over two hours, you can ask to touch the baby and even ask if you can try to BF, while you lie there. Not only watch your DH spend a bit of time with baby before she is whisked of to the Special Care Unit.

It is also fine for you as the mother to tell the hospital - do not offer any formula at all.

Also, that the reason baby is nursing for an hour, then sleeping for three hours all of the time - so six sessions a day - is not a sign of a 'good' baby. It is because she has jaundice and is not waking up properly. She needs to be fed more often, not left to sleep.

She needs breastmilk, not glucose water. I was told, like Catherine, to give her glucose water, and even when we went home after 12 days in hospital, told to buy powdered glucose and make it up, and continue with that for a bit.

I wish I was told to face the baby towards the breast to nurse. I was taught in the hospital to hold the baby facing upwards, touch her cheek to the nipple, to make her turn her head towards the nipple and nurse that way. This no doubt contributed to the sore and cracked nipples I experienced with all three of my babies. My skin, which finds it dificult to tolerate moisture also did not help.

I wish I had been told that you CAN nurse while pregnant. I wish I had been told that tandem nursing is fine.

I probably would have also done CLW with the two older ones if I was aware that you could, and that weaning did not have to be done by the parent.