I'm sorry, I just don't get it.

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I'm sorry, I just don't get it.
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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:45pm

Maybe I'm having a bad day, but I really just don't get the, "Happy Mommy=Happy Baby" mentality when someone throws it out there in defense of formula feeding. Where exactly can I get one of these babies who is automatically happy because I am? Can I trade mine in for that model? LOL (just kidding, of course). I am just really tired of reading that and hearing that.


Sorry, just had to vent. I was feeling left out of the monster threads :)

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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 8:35pm

Just because *you* are designed to be Supermom doesn't mean all moms are. Sadly, not all moms are created equal....and that's ok. >>>

Uh WTF? Did you even read what I wrote or did you just decide to go on some diatribe about it because you felt offended at soemthing I said, taken out of context?

ME as supermom? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? 21 year old girl gets pregnant while on BC, doesn't want the baby for the first two trimesters, has a negative birth experience, has no clue how to take care of a baby no less, suffering from pretty severe PPD/PPP, in the middle of a possible breakup with SO, going to school full time and not spending as much time with my kid as I'd like...that is who I am. I never, ever claimed to be a SUPERMOM and I never would. I could tell you all day the things I do that disqualify ME from that category. I don't expect ALL MOMS to be any certain way. Your scenario doesn't even apply to my post, as evidenced by my acknowledgment that Dads need to help out. If you are a single parent, of course everything is harder and choices may be different.

I have not at any point in this thread or ANY OTHER thread said that I was better than other moms, or that all moms should strive to act certain ways. I'm just saying that biologically speaking Moms are responsible for feeding the baby. Even single moms. You don't get out of that by not having a husband. It's just a fact of nature.

And, you know, that's ok. Jeez.




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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 9:12pm

Wow, Ok calm down.


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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 9:52pm
Hi Gina~ just popping in to say thanks for thinking of me, to post for me :) Cosleeping rocks! Ok, back to the debate at hand.
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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 10:08pm

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Huh? Since when does mom not get a break at all??? It's not as if a mom nurses 24/7. Moreover, sitting on a couch and reading a book, watching tv, or surfing the net pretty much qualifies as a break in my book. The scenario you're describing -- a family member taking the baby two nights a week -- is hardly the norm for any new mom, regardless of feeding method.

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This is the second time at least that you've mentioned that your niece's feeding arrangements were not detrimental to her well-being. I don't recall anyone telling you that your niece would be hurt by this arrangement, so why keep bringing it up? To reiterate what I said before, an infant being cared for by an attentive caregiver is going to be well bonded, happy, friendly, and sweet. Simple attachment theory. No one's arguing otherwise.

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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 10:24pm
I think that your arguments got confused with the general vein of the thread, where several women were talking about wanting to do *everything* for their newborns. Mea culpa.




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Registered: 11-29-2005
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 10:50pm
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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 11:01pm

>>>I'll throw in that 99% of moms in developed countries outside the US "can" breastfeed.<<<<

99% meaning their plumbing works? Or 99% don't have any legitimate reason they can't make it happen (medication, surgery, cancer, drug use, etc).

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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 11:02pm

>>>to put it mildly.<<<<

lol.

(sorry to hear about the loss of your friend).

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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 11:14pm

>>>>I always wanted to breastfeed but was told by my dr's not to because (at the time) the mediciation I was on was too new and there weren't enough statistics that BFing was safe.<<<<

This is a lot like what I went through, though it sounds like there was a bit more support for bf'ing on the med I was on compared to yours. The lack of information was very worrying and it was a very tough decision to make, my dh thought we should use formula even though he is a bf'ing fan. I have another med that is absolutely contraindicated, so I avoided going back on that as long as possible.

I agree with the rest of your post.

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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 9:21am

sometimes "being a parent" isn't what you signed up for.


Yeah, no kidding. SOme have hard harder expereinces then others. SOme have breastfed throught them, some havent. I donbt think anyone is saying that baby rearing is cut and dry.


Most babys sleep through the night by 1 year old. My kid is almost 5 and still wakes up at least 6 times a night.


I dont think we did anything by the book this time.


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