I'm sorry, I just don't get it.
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I'm sorry, I just don't get it.
| Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:45pm |
Maybe I'm having a bad day, but I really just don't get the, "Happy Mommy=Happy Baby" mentality when someone throws it out there in defense of formula feeding. Where exactly can I get one of these babies who is automatically happy because I am? Can I trade mine in for that model? LOL (just kidding, of course). I am just really tired of reading that and hearing that.
Sorry, just had to vent. I was feeling left out of the monster threads :)

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No absolutely not! If dad wants to help, I certainly wouldn't be one to say "NO!" I mean I might say "I got it, go back to sleep" if it's something I could handle. But if he was up and ready to go conquer the world, there's not really much to say except "here's a diaper" haha. However, knowing my DH, it is VERY unlikely this would happen-ever. It'd be like Elissa said, if I needed help and asked for it, you better believe it was serious kinda thing.
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This is exactly what I was being attacked for, so thank you! The thought that DH and I couldn't come up with a plan before baby was naive or something....
I think sometimes things can change b/c of unexpected circumstances, and I'm certainly not opposed to making a new game plan, but I think that me being aware of DH and his sleep habits gives me a pretty good idea of how things will be, and let's just say it's a good thing he married me LOL
You know after the "beating" I thought I wouldn't come back here at all. I was so upset that my opinion was bashed just because I'm not a mother even though many other people were saying the same thing. I'm glad I came back to read that someone had pointed out the
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It actually is like that here sometimes, LOL. Not often, mind you. I think he likes to keep me guessing as to when he'll be willing to help out without my asking him, haha. But when he says he wants to, even if it's rare, I'm glad to let him, and I just try to savor the moments when they do occur. ;O)
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It's basically that way with us. I *don't* typically ask him for help either, unless I really need it.
ITA with your post.
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Ya, before Alaya was born, I kinda expected to get up at night.
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I realize your post is probably directed at me...
<<1. People making generalizations about what men should/shouldn't be doing (IOW, what my husband should/shouldn't have to do).>>
This is precisely what is being done to me, why the double standard? Am I not entitled to my opinion? (This thread being more of an opinionated one, rather than factual, anyhow)
<<2. People making agreements of who would take care of what before the baby was actually born. That was more of a concern than a beef because I just think it's a bad practice for a solid partnership after the baby is born (and most of your plans go out the window). I feel I've already explained myself on that front.>>
I totally disagree here, and I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree. I am
<<2. People making agreements of who would take care of what before the baby was actually born. That was more of a concern than a beef because I just think it's a bad practice for a solid partnership after the baby is born (and most of your plans go out the window). I feel I've already explained myself on that front.>>
I totally disagree here, and I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree. I am a planner, always have been.
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Perhaps Holly is seeing those "prebirth agreements" as contracts and you are seeing them as fluid?
What I always tell pre-birth parents about their certainties is just to keep an open mind and don't "lock into" anything until they see what this baby needs.
Because I remember being offended when my veterinarian offered sympathy to my cat about her life changing dramatically while I was pregnant. I was quite, quite certain how it would be for our cat and I was quite, quite incorrect! ^_^
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