I'm sorry, I just don't get it.

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I'm sorry, I just don't get it.
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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:45pm

Maybe I'm having a bad day, but I really just don't get the, "Happy Mommy=Happy Baby" mentality when someone throws it out there in defense of formula feeding. Where exactly can I get one of these babies who is automatically happy because I am? Can I trade mine in for that model? LOL (just kidding, of course). I am just really tired of reading that and hearing that.


Sorry, just had to vent. I was feeling left out of the monster threads :)

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 10:43am

Of course he should be "allowed" to help if he wants to.

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 10:58am
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What I always tell pre-birth parents about their certainties is just to keep an open mind and don't "lock into" anything until they see what this baby needs.>>


That could be where the misunderstanding is. I mean I'm not really in the business of making contracts with my husband lol, aside from our marriage itself :P We grew up very differently, he had a SAHM and I didn't although my mom was exactly how I picture myself, just less stressed from having to WOH. She BF me and was able to stay home for 2 years. But my dad was NEVER involved in childcare growing up. My mom used to hire a babysitter even if he was home LOL. He just could not be trusted or something! Don't get me wrong, my father loves us very much, but he just couldn't do the daily care activities. My hope for us is that my DH is more involved, but I still wouldn't expect him to get up at night. I have no problem adjusting plans, however, as circumstances arise. But to me, BFing is non-negotiable. It's not a choice I am making. It is just what I will do. So I guess you could say that part is set in stone. Whether or not DH wants to feed a bottle of BM at night is still negotiable.


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Tee hee! I probably have the same unrealistic expectations about our animals too :P


  ~~~Rachael wife to Mike~~~
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 11:18am

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Good question, which is why in this marriage neither us has ever "forced" the other to do anything at all. :O)

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 11:21am
Aww thanks! Yeah these threads can get out of hand! It's hard to keep up, you leave for an hour and now it's moved on to carseats??? LOL

  ~~~Rachael wife to Mike~~~
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 12:01pm
Please don't leave! I enjoy your perspective, and I'm constantly impressed that you have such an excellent grasp on these topics without having your own kids yet. Sheesh, before I had my first, I thought some really ridiculous things about parenthood and baby care, LOL. You're doing much better than me before my kids were born. Plus I think you're funny. :O)
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 1:11pm
Aww thanks :) I enjoy being here, which I guess is why when you get attacked like that it hurts alot :( I have learned alot from this board definitely.

  ~~~Rachael wife to Mike~~~
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 1:24pm


Bingo -- thus far DD hasn't had many nighttime needs except nursing, but DH has asked me to wake him up (he sleeps like the dead, never hears a peep) if I need him to get Galete because he doesn't get to see her during the week, so it's his only time from Sunday night to Saturday morning that he can give her a hug.

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 1:41pm


Amen to that.

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 1:51pm

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  ~~~Rachael wife to Mike~~~
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 1:53pm


My poor pup went more than one day without pooping until noon when I finally dragged myself out of bed!

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