Inappropriate places to BFIP??

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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am

Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:58pm
i only have the last one video taped,, i wish i had them all ,, my girlfriend had a video camera at connors birth but we spaced it off too, she did record his first bath and all that other stuff they do afterwards but we missed the actual birthing,

Vicky ~32~

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Kelsey The Brainiac

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 8:27pm
I wouldn't want my SIL at my birth. She and I don't really get along. We put up with each other, let's put it that way. She think's I'M weird, I think she's weird...

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But I didn't care who saw the video.

My MIL is closer...not like my mom, but I didn't mind having her there...didn't want her during LABOUR tho, just at the BIRTH.

She was to take care of DD1 during labour anyhow.

Fio.

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 9:00pm
The hospital where I had both of my children does not allow video cameras! :( We snuck ours in anyway for after the birth but they absolutely would not allow it to be on during the birth.

I do have pretty awesome still pictures of my 1st DS being born though, thanks to my wonderful OB who coaxed my DH into taking them. Now neither one of us had any intention of taking pictures of the baby coming out, but this doctor was so cool! He had me all covered up with that paper gown stuff so you don't see anything but the baby's head in the pics. My absolute favorite picture is of my DS grasping my hand while he was only halfway born!

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 10:46pm
Wow, that is so cool! What a wonderful picture!

Our first pics of dd are when she is two days old, and they aren't very good. We were really spaced out being first time parents with no sleep!

I really wish one of us would have thought about it during the birth. Of course I was a little distracted! Oh well, we made up for it later by taking hundreds of pictures of her during her first year.

Sherry

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 11:48pm
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Luckily my sister lives near me so she taped the birth while dh helped me. There was no way he could have handled the camera!!! Anyway, I ALWAYS fast forward. It's still hard for me to hear myself labor. Do your girlfriends feel that way at all? I know eventually I'll be able to do it, but for now I go straight to the good stuff.

I'm sorry you don't have pictures. Did you write everything about your labor down? Regardless, it's hard to forget the birth of a child.

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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 11:51pm
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That stinks. Do you think it's for legal reasons???


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That gives me goose pumps. How cool.

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 8:57am
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Exactly. My OB was pretty candid with me about the sad state of liability insurance for Ob/Gyn's. He actually said it has taken the fun out of his job. We're not even allowed to video tape sonograms in my area anymore! I remember being so excited to tape my first sono, my sister, who had her children w/the same practice only a few years before had taped hers and the whole family watched it in awe...I wanted to do the same but they told me they don't allow it anymore due to lawsuits. Apparantly people were using those tapes in court, I.E. the baby is born with a defect that was undetected on a sonogram, the tape is used to say "look, here's the defect, it should've been detected..."

Very sad...

I wish there was a way to post a picture here without having to pay...I'd love to post the pic of my son being born holding my finger! It's taken from over my head and like I said you don't see anything you wouldn't want to see!

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 10:13am
I think it is the comfort level of the woman. I even debated w/myself if I wanted my own mother to be in there. I finally made the last minute decision in the labor room and said yes, boy, am I glad I did. It meant so much to her both times and she is excited about this 3rd time. It also meant a lot to me to share labor & childbirth with my mother who I have spent so much time talking about not only pregnancy, labor, delivery with but every aspect of parenting.
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 10:39am
We fast forward so we can watch more than one. It was a baby shower, and we watched about 3 videos. At one get together, we did watch about a half hour each of two videos. It was at my girlfriend's house and she showed us both of her birth videos for her two dd's.

The video for her second dd was really gripping - it was like watching drama on tv. Her dd had the cord wrapped around her neck and had aspirated a blood clot. The midwife and my girlfriend's dh did cpr (he is a cop) and her dd started breathing after 11 minutes (I think it was 11). They called 911, but by the time they got there, the baby was fine. We knew how it would all turn out, yet we were still on the edge of our seats watching the video. I suppose this is why people don't want a homebirth, but the midwife was more than capable of handling the situation. At 10 lbs 8 oz and with a 3 day labor, my friend would have been an automatic c-section. She won't ever go to a hospital as she has big babies and long labors, and would most likely have interventions. Her midwife is able to birth her babies with no interventions.

Sherry

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 11:17am
Don't you wish you had more births like this on TV -- homebirth, midwife, no intervention yet with all the drama!!?? Amazing story.

I just found out I'm pregnant and I would like to have a homebirth with this child. I'm a little nervous, but I think I can parallel path the nine months so that I'm ready for either the hospital or home. I think our experience with dd at the hospital was typical. We had to argue with doctors and nurses in order to keep the interventions away (IV, fetal monitor, post birth procedures). This was all despite the fact that we had a good doula. One doctor burst into the room about 2 hours into my labor (which apparently I was doing quite well) and point blank asked if I wanted an epidural. Anyway, no one should have to go through that for a natural childbirth.

BTW, you are very lucky to have friends who you can share birth videos with. I think that's so great. I really wish I had friends who were more like me in the birth, bfing, parenting department.

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