Inappropriate places to BFIP??

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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am

Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 11:20am
CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:29pm
i have always been in great awe of people who have natural births,, especially natural home births, i could never do that,

Vicky ~31~


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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:40pm
Congrats!

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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 6:06pm
I also think it is TOATLLY bizzare that you all "hide away" to breast feed! I mean, i am thrilled you all ARE breastfeeding, but i just seems to me that this is promoting some sort of secrecy or indecency of breastfeeding. I mean you are all women, mothers, freinds ... what is the big deal? May i ask also, where you live? R~
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 6:10pm
Really??? I guess we are all so different, & thats fine. You would likely drop dead ot knwo that my 30 ur old brother, my sister in law, my mom AND my DAD lol, were all inmy delivery. & i think it is THE best gift i could have given to my parents. & i just lost my mom, very unexpectedly at age 60, a month ago - & i must say that knowing she was there to experience the most incredibly wonderful moment of my life, & of HERS, the birth of her 1st grandchild, makes me feel wonderful. AND my dd lost her Gramma right b4 her 4th bday, but for the rest fo her life she will know how special their bond was from teh very second she was born - AND she can see it all on video! R~
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 6:46pm
I will tell you how to post the pic! I am dying to see it! E me at Nwptrn@yahoo.com You can have a pic posted w/o charge very easily! Just e me! :) R~
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 1:32pm

i am sorry that you lost your mom :-(


i lost my dad suddenly nov30 2002,he was only 55 ,

Vicky ~32~

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Kelsey The Brainiac

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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 2:39pm
I don't feel there's anyplace where a baby is allowed that is "inappropriate" to nurse. It's true that some places are more BFIP friendly, and it's probably 'easier' to BFIP around a group of families or women than it is to nurse in front of a mostly-male group. The only places I can think of that would be inappropriate to nurse are places where a baby isn't allowed anyway...like a bar or other adult-only location.

I just had the interesting and difficult experience of BFIP on a crowded, hot, completely full plane. It was a 4hr flight. My son is about 24in long now, and I nursed him in the very confined space of an airplane seat (with those horrible, hard armrests on each side) between a window and an overweight 30ish guy overfilling the seat next to me. My son was all scrunched up, and I was miserably uncomfortable...not mentally, only physically. To add to the "fun", as soon as we took off the totally oblivious woman in front of me further invaded our inadaquate space by reclining her seat. I couldn't put my table down for a beverage, and resorted to holding a can of sprite and my sleeping little one...I've never drank a pop so fast. If he'd have woken up, I would have needed both hands ASAP, LOL. Nursing in that tiny, confined, public space was so terribly cramped and physically uncomfortable I now feel convinced that I really can (and would) nurse virtually anywhere, if my child was hungry.

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-Jen

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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 3:31pm
OMG, ITA...right down to the "repressed midwestern relatives"! I just returned a week ago from a trip to visit relatives in the Wisconsin/Illinois area...

On the way to my Aunt's house, my mom told me that several weeks prior to my arrival, my aunt had asked if I was nursing, and when my mom confirmed my feeding choice, she stressed that she wanted me to be "very descrete" because she, her husband (my uncle), and their children (my cousins) weren't used to "seeing that sort of thing".

If I didn't know better, I'd think they viewed nursing akin to public masterbation.

The first night, I admit, I was a wimp. I nursed in the darkened family room, alone, covered in a blanket (just in case someone might walk in and flip on the light). But, after that experience I just decided that I'd be respectful of their sensitivities and use a blanket, but I wasn't going to hide away in some dark back room to feed my son again, and if they didn't like it, we'd leave and THEY'D miss out on seeing us.

And my DH is the same was as yours...he actually encouraged me to be far more brazen. ;-)

-Jen

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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 3:36pm
Would you excuse yourself from the room if a mommy started to bottlefeed her baby? We're talking about feeding a child here, nothing sexual about it. Would you still excuse yourself if she nursed descretely, with a blanket over her shoulder?

Nusing a child isn't something to be ashamed or embarassed about...and if I felt pressured to leave the room to nurish my child, you wouldn't have to not invite me back...I wouldn't *want* to be spending time at you house.

My child comes first, far above repressed, inappropriately overly-sexualized sensitivities.

-Jen

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