Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
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-Jen
Of course, that's just me. And, I've become a lot bolder about BFIP as my son gets older and I've become more comfortable and skilled at BFIP proudly and discretely.
-Jen
However, a woman who BFIP/nurses in the presence of others and doesn't excuse herself to nurse privately is motivated first and foremost by meeting her child's needs for nurishment, and secondly by not missing out on visiting with friends/family.
A person who requests she leaves the room to nurse her child is motivated soley by their own discomfort (in complete disregard for her feelings of being singled out, embarassed, and sent away from the group), which IMO is a lot more rude/selfish.
Common courtesy IMO would be to put your own temporary discomfort aside and keep your mouth shut, and let her nurse without interferrence or incident.
-Jen
Anyway, that's just me.
-Jen
I guess I just don't get it. If you admit that you bond with your baby through bottlefeeding in a similar way that a breastfeeding mother does and that you can and do bottlefeed around others in public/social situations...but that you would leave the room if a woman breastfed in your presence out of "respect". If she doesn't feel the need to leave the room to nurse privately, why should you leave the room supposedly for her benefit?
*confused*
-Jen
If a breastfeeding mother felt that way, she wouldn't nurse in front of you or anyone else...would she? So, if she begins nursing in front of you or your "guests", it's probably safe to assume that SHE doesn't feel that way, or she would have taken the initiative to nurse more privately, right?
So...if YOU are asking her to leave, or leaving her to nurse alone, it's because of how YOU feel and what YOU think. And, you'd be doing so in disregard for her beliefs and feelings. And, that's where the "self-absorbed" description enters the equation.
-Jen
-Jen
You and me both, LOL!
She mimics bf'ing (i.e. holding close, bonding, etc.), so that bottlefeeding is as special as bf'ing. But yet bf'ing is so special it should be done in private. But you don't have to bottlefeed in private. Yet bottlefeeding is as special a bond as bf'ing, except not so special you have to do it in private. And round and round we go!
Sherry
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