Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
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-Jen
-Jen
Do you realize that there are other ways to "snuggle close" and get skin to skin contact that don't involve feeding? 90% of the time a bottle is given in the same position a breast is given. Do you honestly think that the occasional bottle that's not give in the arm cradle position is going to change ANYTHING, let alone put the bond at a different level?
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Ok now I get it. That statement explains your egotistical opinion on the bonding issue. Only YOU can do it...YOU are very important...YOU are irreplacable. Sure, your husband is bonded to his kids, but since ONLY YOU could feed them your bond is at a "different level" than his. And since my husband and my mother and mother in law shared in the feeding of my children now and then, your bond is also at a different level than mine.
IMO, the fact that you have even thought such a thing speaks volumes to me about your need to validate your importance and self worth as a mother. Why else would you even be thinking about your 'level of bonding' versus some other mother's level? Me personally, I am confidant enough that the bonds I have with my children are rock solid that I could care less about comparing it to anyone elses "level". IMO, when a person feels a need to place values on something as personal and complex as the mother/child bond, than that person has issues with their own self esteem/self worth. Saying you've bonded at a different level with your children because you BF them makes you feel better about yourself...but when you really think about it, it's a ridiculously generalized, totally unsupported claim. You have absolutely know way of knowing what level any other woman's bond is at with her children, since bonding with a baby involves so much more than feeding.
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