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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am |
Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?
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"Breastfeeding usually plays an integral role in forming the deep attachment between mother and baby. Bottle-feeding mothers, of course, can also be securely attached to their babies. There are many tools in the attachment kit; breastfeeding is but one. It is, however, an extraordinarily powerful one...
The role of breastfeeding in bonding
Breastfeeding is designed by nature to ensure maternal-infant interaction and closeness. If done without schedules or other restrictions, breastfeeding guarantees that you and your baby will be in close physical contact 8 to 18 times in every 24 hours. In fact, nursing mothers tend to be with their infants altogether more than other mothers. In the first 10 days after birth, nursing mothers hold their babies more than bottle-feeding mothers, even when they are not nursing. They rock their babies more, speak to their babies more, and are more likely to sleep with their babies.
In Western society, many women never hold a newborn until they give birth to their own, yet this frequent skin-to-skin contact and interaction soon make up for even a complete lack of familiarity with babies. The mother who immerses herself in her newborn, breastfeeding frequently and without restrictions, quickly learns to read her baby's cues and to trust her own instincts. She extends the gentle give-and-take, the empathy, and the commitment of breastfeeding into the rest of her mothering. Nursing her baby provides her with a blueprint for sensitive parenting in the years to come....
And, of course, a baby's emotional need for love and reassurance is just as strong as her physical need for milk. Whereas most formula-fed babies are soon taught to hold their own bottles, the breastfed baby is always held by her mother for feedings. A breastfed baby enjoys not only the comfort of the warm breast, but caressing, rocking, and eye contact before, during, and after feedings. With all her senses, she drinks in her mother's love."
http://sheknows.com/about/look/471.htm
"Bonding is really a continuation of the relationship that began during pregnancy. The physical and chemical changes that were occurring in your body reminded you of the presence of this person. Birth cements this bond and gives it reality. Now you can see, feel, and talk to the little person whom you knew only as the "bulge" or from the movements and the heartbeat you heard through medical instruments. Bonding allows you to transfer your life-giving love for the infant inside to caregiving love on the outside. Inside, you gave your blood; outside, you give your milk, eyes, hands, and voice--your entire self. "
http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artbonding.shtml
"Let's talk about mother-infant bonding, a somewhat controversial subject. Much is made about the way that breastfeeding facilitates this bonding, while at the same time it is clear that bottle-feeding mothers usually establish deep emotional bonds with their babies. This issue is difficult to study scientifically, but there is evidence of hormonal effects of breastfeeding which may predispose a mother to closer bonding with her infant. Combined with the automatic skin-to-skin contact and closeness afforded by breastfeeding (something which bottle-feeding mothers have to work to duplicate), this could result in improved bonding. An interesting sideline from a study in a developing country found that when breastfeeding rates were increased among mothers with a significant abandonment rate, fewer of these mothers abandoned their babies. Other studies have suggested that there may be a lower rate of child abuse in breastfeeding families considered to be at risk."
http://medicalreporter.health.org/tmr0297/breastfeed0297.html
"When you breastfeed, you have a relationship with your baby that no one else can have."
http://www.doh.wa.gov/cfh/WIC/breastfeeding.htm
"Breastfeeding is the ideal way to begin, establish and nurture a close bond between mother and infant. The infant learns trust in early human closeness as well as cooperation with another human being. Mothers who breastfeed successfully often have an increased sense of self worth and empowerment. Mothers with less children, spaced further apart, can devote the appropriate amount of time to nurturing and responsible parenting. Breastfed infants are rarely, if ever, victims of child abuse and neglect.
Oxytocin released during breastfeeding may provide a biological basis for human attachment and bonding. Studies shows that mothers who breastfeed in the first hours of life, choose to keep their infants longer in their hospital rooms than mothers who have later contact. In addition, mothers who breastfeed have less anxiety, more mother-infant harmony, and are more engrossed in the feeding interaction than mothers who bottle feed. In several countries throughout the world, the rate of abandonment was reduced significantly after hospitals implemented "the Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative," which increased the use of rooming in and early breastfeeding."
http://www.breastfeeding.org/articles/child.html
And here's a really interesting article to read in it's entirety: Bonding Matters: The Chemistry of Attachment.
http://www.babyreference.com/BondingMatters.htm
-Jen
as to how many hours per day i had skin-skin with my baby -- ROFLOL! I can't remember back THAT far -- my "baby" is 8 YEARS old. Suffice it to say that we had plenty while bottle-feeding AND plenty at other times too.
eileen
I pour the water in the bottle & scoop out the correct amount of formula & shake well. Measuring, mixing? No big deal. It takes longer to make a bowl of grits (instant in the microwave at that)! Cleaning the bottles, nipples, rings? Easy as pie. Just soak in warm soapy water for a bit, wash & rinse. That takes hardly any time out of my day. No sterilization required unless the bottles are brand new.
Warm a bottle? Never! Not until at the 1yr birthday we change to whole milk, then we will start warming them up (then I'll start carrying a cooler).
Sorry. I would NEVER do that. It is just me. If something is suppose to be refrigerated I take it straight from the refrigerator & serve. I would NEVER feel comfortable doing that. I just couldn't. But if those who are do, that is great.
When we go to whole milk at the one year birthday I will then start carrying a cooler in the SUV with us.
I'm pro-breastfeeding if that is what the mother wants to do. I fully support it. I think it is great. Everyone I know breastfeeds. I know very few formula feeders as myself.
How do I know this? Because in our parenting discussions we have discussed this. Some will bf in front of their mothers, others won't even do that. Dh and older siblings is it!
So when we are all together, say at a bbq, for the breastfeeding mother to leave, it is no biggie. She would if 20 breastfeeding moms were there.
I don't know anyone who bfip or bf in front of others. But I do know many breastfeeders. I'm in a minority when it comes to choosing to formula feed :o)
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