Inappropriate places to BFIP??

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am

Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:05am
I had to laugh at your entire post. And you think *I* was defensive?


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My own experience as a mother. It was an estimate, not a statistic. I should've clarified that but I thought it was obvious.

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Oh OK. Your friends feed their babies with rubber gloves and a face mask do they? And perhaps surgical gowns? Honestly, this is such a ridiculous statement I don't know why I'm wasting my time debating it.

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Name calling? I called your OPINION on bonding egotistical, no name calling. I stand by my opinion that your opinion on bonding is VERY egotistical. And once again you're pointing out *MY* defensiveness and completely overlooking your own. Yes, I AM defensive when someone who doesn't know me or my kids from Adam comes out and makes a blanket statement like you have...to assume you've bonded at a higher level with your kids simply because you BF them is an insult to me as a mother. I would never claim that my bonds are stronger or higher than your bonds, because I don't even know you. And if I DID make such a claim--dear LORD I can only imagine the defensiveness on your end. So get over your "defensiveness speaks volumes" rhetoric, if I *WASN'T* defensive of such a preposterous claim that your bond is higher than mine, then I would worry about myself.


Beyond that, your "theory" is ridiculously off base. And I retain that it's my opinion that your feelings on this issue are rooted in insecurity on your end. I don't mean that as an insult and I haven't said it in an inflammatory, "venemous", or attacking manner at all. Your own defensivness is causing you to interpret it as such.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:13am
Many people overlook the importance of touching. Nursing provides that guarantee of touch. Touch is an important part of close relationships.~Lisa
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:38am
Yes
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:40am
Honestly, you would be very surprised!


I would say that my almost-5-mo-old baby and I spend at least 6 full hours out of every 24 hour period skin-to-skin in a nursing position.>

It shouldn't be surprising that this is common among formula feeders also. But from your post, I guess it is

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:42am
Then why do the moms I know who formula fed one child, breast fed another child, feel no difference in bonding? Felt no difference during the infancy stage? Openly say, during the first year there was no difference in bonding for me with my baby btw the bottle fed one and the breast fed one? I think that sure, some women do feel a difference. But not all :o)
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:43am
I agree that touching is very important & an important part of close relationships. But you can easily have it with bottle feeding. Nursing isn't the only way :o)
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:46am
Bottle feeding sterile? Hmm. Apparently she doesn't know many bottle feeders & see them with their infants, huh?

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Oh OK. Your friends feed their babies with rubber gloves and a face mask do they? And perhaps surgical gowns? Honestly, this is such a ridiculous statement I don't know why I'm wasting my time debating it.>>

Ditto. My opinion also.








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Registered: 09-24-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:49am
Thanks for the offer April...(someone else had offered too, sorry I can't find that post right now but thank you too).

Here's the deal: I went and pulled out my treasured birth pictures to scan...for the first time I looked at them from an 'objective' standpoint and I actually don't think it's appropriate for public viewing! You can't see my "privates" but my son is kinda bloody--gooey--slimy (as all babies are when they're being born LOL!) and it might offend some. It's funny how in my mind the pictures were so perfect and beautiful, it's only when I looked at it from a strangers POV that I realized, ummm, not everybody would be pleased to see this LOL! (Perhaps if I ever get the time I will create a website and put the link up for those who choose to look!)

Anyway thnks again for the offer!

Anne

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 9:02am
Of course touch is important. But to assume a FF baby isn't touched as much as a BF is just innacurate, wrong and ridiculous. These generalizations I find offensive...to assume BF= "higher bond" over FF? It just doesn't fly...there's no way to know WHAT kind of bond exsists based on feeding method alone . And a FF baby may very well be touched MORE than a BF one.
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 9:05am
Comments on some points you made:



With both of my babies (and planning to do the same with #3 baby this summer) I held my babies ALL the time. I rarely put my babies in the bassinet or baby bed, or on a blanket. So no, this isn't true for all mothers.



Not so in every woman's case.



I maintain as an experienced mother of two this is easily done for bottle feeding moms just the same. It isn't just the breastfeeding ones that can & do experience this.



My 7 month old baby does hold his bottle on occasions. Like driving thru the school drop off line this morning when he wanted a bottle NOW & it was physically impossible for me to hold & cuddle him while driving my oldest up to the door for school. Had we been home this morning (no school, a weekend day) he would have been in MY arms, cuddled, me giving him his bottle, singing him lullabyes!



Can and is the same for bottle fed babies if the mother chooses it to be. Which I do choose this way for my children.

<"When you breastfeed, you have a relationship with your baby that no one else can have.">

I don't think this is exclusive to breastfeeding moms. Not according to people I know in real life also that have done with bottle feeding one baby, breastfeeding another.

<"Breastfeeding is the ideal way to begin, establish and nurture a close bond between mother and infant. The infant learns trust in early human closeness as well as cooperation with another human being. Mothers who breastfeed successfully often have an increased sense of self worth and empowerment.>

Not exclusive to breastfeeding moms in my experience & in talking to real mom's about their experiences.



No. I had total rooming in with both of my babies my entire stay in the hospital & will with my 3rd baby this summer. I can't imagine sending my baby to the nursery!







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