Inappropriate places to BFIP??

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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am

Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:00pm
I was on a moms circle once and the mom said she was glad she was having a c-section, since she thought that a woman going into labor was "barbaric" and "unnatural". I was shocked; I kept thinking that a c-section was unnatural if anything. I have nothing against them, they are medically necessary sometimes, but some women have no idea what they're missing out on because they think labor is so painful and they know they can't tolerate pain so they persuade their doc to do a c-section.

Pregnancy I loved pretty much if you take away the nausea, lol! But birth? The best. I almost feel like a masochist saying I enjoyed it, lol!

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:02pm
I've occasionally mixed up a bottle of formula & sat in the refrigerator and thought "oh, I'll just get it right out & serve". He spits it, turns his head, won't drink it. Then when I warm it up to like I normally serve his bottles he is ready for it. Same thing when I've tried to give him applesauce. Out of the refrigerator, no way. So I'm wondering about the milk thing. I'll definately try cold first, easier than warming it up!!!! Especially when I'm out.

Right now if I could just get him to eat ANY solids I'd be thrilled :o)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:03pm
I enjoyed pregnancy and unmedicated childbirths. I must really be a masochist...lol!~Lisa
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:04pm
#18 and #238
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:07pm
I cannot imagine not rooming-in during my hospital stay with my baby the whole stay. Sending them to the nursery? The formula feeders I know all had total rooming-in.

Of course, I hold my babies ALL the time, ALL the time!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:11pm
You'd express milk at 7am and leave it without cooler, without cool pack in a diaper bag and use it at 3 or 4? >>>

i've never fed ebm to either of my children. so, technically no. however, yes, i'd pump milk at 7 am that sil or dh could feed at 3pm or even 4pm. breastmilk is not formula - the same rules don't apply and to apply them is kind of silly.


I wouldn't. >>>>

i don't see the relevance...you wouldn't bf.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:17pm
thanks for pulling some quotes. i was short on time. there are others too, but those answer bookfan's initial query well.
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:25pm
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Actaully, it's the mass production milking methods that are dirty. Free range, grass fed cows are not *that* dirty. 1000's of cows that are herded into a huge facility to be milked end up covered in feces which is why infection is so rampant...and why you'll find puss in mass produced milk (pre-pasteurization).

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No, it isn't required if you're getting your milk from responsibly raised and milked cows. (Can't think of a better way to ohrase it.) Raw milk is available to the general public in some states. I drink raw milk.

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:26pm
Formula is hard to equate to the ebm analogy entirely. If you are talking about pre-mixed formula, open a can of ready to feed formula then yes, it is different. But the way I use formula, I just put in the scoops to the correct amount of water. There is nothing to keep refrigerated or in need of a cooler.

I decided not to breastfeed. It isn't that I wouldn't. I considered it extensively twice, during two pregnancies, before my first pregnancy, btw pregnancies. I just felt comfortable with formula feeding. I wouldn't bfip or in front of anyone other than dh and older children. That is what I said I absolutely wouldn't do.

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 2:26pm
<< ...I just think the risk of poor attachment is greater among ff children...maybe women who are less maternal tend to ff and therefore we see more "anti-attachment" behavior, for lack of a better term, among these women.>>

Actually that's a great point. It is entirely possible that women who are not "natural nurturers"--the less 'maternal' women out there--choose FF more often than BF'ing. *BUT* I would venture to guess that if those women had bonding issues with their children it would be due to their lack of nurturing skills in general, not the fact that they fed them from a bottle.

In other words, if you could take a group of FF'rs who are poorly attached to their babies, go back in time and have them BF their babies, I do not think there would be any difference. You bring up often the idea that BF is more than a feeding method. I'd have to say you're right, but so is FF'ing. You can certainly go through the motions and BF a child without tenderness and warmth, just as you can do the same with a bottle. So if the mother has issues with showing tenderness and warmth and nuturing her child, there are going to be issues regardlesss of where their nutrition came from. (Hope that made some sense).

I happen to know of one person personally who had "bonding issues" (by her own admission) with her DD in the begining, and she EBF this child. She ended up with PPD, and through counseling a lot of issues came up. She realized that she was, just as you said, not a natural maternal type of person (and neither was her own mother). Those were the issues that caused her to have trouble bonding, and BF'ing did not help them at all.

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