Inappropriate places to BFIP??

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Inappropriate places to BFIP??
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:48am

Is there anywhere you feel it is completely inappropriate to nurse in public?

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:02pm
I just wanted to make it clear that it wasn't that I wouldn't. It was a choice btw the two. I did consider several times, for lengthy intervals whether I'd bf or not.

Yes, I understand & am fully aware it isn't necessary. What I said was it is fact, I just wouldn't, couldn't do it. I'd have to put it in a cooler!

That was my point :o)

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:07pm
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I disagree. The *woman* may still have issues bonding, but at least she is forced to have a lot of contact with the baby and the *baby* can feel secure. This is the most important thing. I think bfing can help promote maternal feelings given its hormonal nature. It probably can't "cure" a woman who isn't maternal (I think therapy is probably best there), but it's probably better than ff.

I have a friend who has anxiety and BIG TIME mothering issues. Her infants spend most of their time in carseats, bouncy seats, strollers and cribs. If she bf, at least they would be held more. Not surprising, she has a rigid, schedule for ff and her dd frequently cries while waiting to be fed. I've had to distance myself from her lately because it is so hard for me to watch this baby suffer. Do you see how bfing could benefit this child?

About a year ago I was talking to a lactation consultant had just quit her job at a store/support center for new and expecting moms. She got burnt out because, to quote her: "I just can't teach these moms how to be mothers". She thinks this is a big problem in our scoiety. It got to be too much for her. I don't know what my point was here, but for some reason this topic reminded me of our conversation.

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:11pm
Poor baby! Yes, I can see how bfing could change that. But I can also see how being a different type of Mommy could EASILY change it also!

Gee Whiz! A baby spending most of its time in car seats, bouncy chairs, strollers, the baby bed. UGH! Yuck! That just isn't my way of being MOMMY! Rigid schedules? Whew. I don't even have rigid schedules for my 8 year old.

I can see why you have distanced yourself from this friendship. It is plain & clear.




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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:24pm
Maybe it's a generation thing? You know what I find sad? It's hearing about how years ago men weren't allowed into the delivery room; it just wasn't done. I can't imagine my dh waiting outside waiting for his child to be born. I know without him labor would have seemed much worse and not having him share in it would just seem WRONG. Thank goodness he wanted to be there and no arm twisting was necessary, lol!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:28pm

I never knew that some states allow raw milk.

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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:33pm
Mine all hated baby food. With my 3rd baby I was able to get her though stage 1 and 2 by mixing it with cereal to make it thick. ith my last we barly made it though stage 1 this way. She jsut did not like baby food and wanted what we were eating. I would check with your dr and think twice if there are food allergies in your family. But I was told since my other had no food allergies and no family history of any to get a tastse of the first stage in her for the 3 days to make sure there was no allergy but once we did that and it was clear she could have what we were eating. She hasn't stopped eating since I stopped trying to give her baby food, lol. She was ready thou. I have no idea of knowing if your baby is thatis your choice. I jsut know mine was and hated baby food.

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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:34pm
I enjoyed pregnancy but could have done without the unmedicated birth and c/ss, lol

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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:39pm
That is my ds. When I read to him at night he cuddles up to me. My girls do not and one was nursed for 2.5 yrs (my 5 yr old). Now she would go cuddle up to daddy for a book and he didn't even feed her till she started solids because she wouldn't take a bottle.

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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:49pm
I do not agree. I think nursing would be the worse thing a mother could d that does not have any mothering instincts. I think it would lead to more problems especially if the baby refuses to nurse on a schedule. I doubt forcing a mom to have more contact with the babyis goingto make the baby feel more secure. Babies pick up on tention and I think it would be horrible in the case you suggested for the mother to have nursed.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 3:51pm

I don't see those quotes as a bad thing for anyone.

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