Is it just bfers who
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|Thu, 10-02-2003 - 12:40am|
Try and convince mothers on how to feed their child? Or do some ffers also use guilt to try and get a mother to not nurse? I will fully admit that some bfers (especially the LLL) will try and use guilt to get a mother to nurse. But has anyone here run across a ffer that tried the same thing? I was talking to my mother and asked her if she remembered why she choose to ff my sister. She said she wasn't sure and she said something like she took the easy way. I do not think ffing is easy and told her that. Now what shocked me is my mother had thought about nursing me and was going to but someone in my fathers family scared her about it so I was ff. I think that is sad that she wanted to nurse and was scared off of doing so.
All I have read the last few days is how staunch bfers will do anything to get their point across and guilt someone into nursing and the bad info that is given out about nursing. So I thought I would ask a few questions about ffers. Like have you run across ffers that try and get you to stop nursing for bfers.? Or try and talk you out of it when your pregnant? And for both sides what kind of bad advice have you received about bottle feeding?
For me I was told it was ok to give a bottle shortly after birth before my babies even had a chance to nurse. I was told it wouldn't hurt them. I was also told bottle feeding is easy. But you have to wash and sterilize bottles (unless you have a dishwasher) all day long. I know you do with nursing if your baby will take a bottle but with bottle feeding all the time you have a lot more bottles to wash. Even using disposable bottles you have the nipples and rings to clean. Then there is preparing formula. When you go out anywhere there is worrying about making sure you have formula made up or the stuff to make up bottles. To me nursing once it is started is a lot easier. I was told by the health department I should carry a bottle with me when out instead of nursing my baby, now maybe that is just because I asked for a semi private spot to nurse since I wasn't 100% comfortable with nip, but I still think it was the wrong thing to tell me.
But I have heard things like how do you know s/he is getting enough? With formula you always know how much goes in. But she just nursed 2 hours ago if you were using formula she would go longer between feedings. Nursing is gross I could never do that. You nursed for how long? With formal feeding you can leave her with someone and get away for a few hours (they didn't meet my DS who was ff, lol).
I have no problem with either feeding method. What I have a problem with is the label staunch bfer. I am 100% for bfing but do understand it isn't always the right choice and do not consider myself a staunch bfer. But I haven't seen staunch ffer mentioned on this board and they do exit too. Maybe they are rare but they are out there and are just as annoying as a staunch bfer is. I have also seen how bad bfing advice is handed out but there is bad ffing advice too.
I just feel like breastfeeding is being attacked and I want to even it out if I can some. I'll be the first to admit I may be caught up to much in the debates here right now so it may only be me seeing bfing being attacked so humor me please