l'm actually starting to wonder what

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Registered: 09-24-2003
l'm actually starting to wonder what
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:41pm
I'm even debating anymore LOL! It started as one thing and we end up debating a gazillion other smaller things. But what I'm starting to see is that the vast majority of women here all agree that your choice to ff or bf is your personal choice, and they respect another woman's choice weather or not they agree with it.

The one's that don't agree with this are proabably too militant or narrow minded anyway, and I will say there are probably only two people I've seen here who I would put in that catagory. So therefore, I'm starting to wonder what I want to accomplish by spending all these hours at the computer.

My "mantra" that I have tried so hard to get across is "there is no right or wrong answer" in this debate, either choice is right if it's right for that family. I'm not sure if I've "converted" anybody into thinking that way or not. Maybe I've just lit a few sparks and got someone to understand my POV. But I think I"ve said all I possibly can about BF/vs FF. I wonder, you ladies who have been around for a while, doesn't it get annoying to keep debating over the same issues over and over? Aren't you just repeating yourself? Or do you find that the new people and opinions keep you "fresh"?

Anyway, I'm finding this debating stuff way too addicting and have been all but neglecting my two wonderful boys while I'm glued to the computer. I've tried disciplining myself but it doesn't work. It's weird, I lurked for so long but once I joined in I was hooked. Tonight when the boys are in bed I am going to tie up the loose ends WRT threads I'm debating on, and tomorrow I will force myself to lay low. This time I mean it! I'll still be lurking around but I have to force myself to stay distant or I'll be in "Debaters Anonoymous"!


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 6:33pm

Yes, I feel your pain;)


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 6:40pm
its been so dead around here, its nice to spark things a bit. but you are so right. i've not posted this much IN MONTHS. i woke up at 2am, and was tempted to log in...how scary! now, i must pull dd out of the exersaucer!