Many BFers don't get the support they need

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Many BFers don't get the support they need
Mon, 08-22-2011 - 5:00pm

According to a recent article posted here, many breastfeeding moms do not get the information and support that they need in order to breastfeed as long as they want to. I might even be more accurate to say that almost all breastfeeding moms do not get the support that they need.

Is there any debate about how one should go about finding support? IYO, what is the best way to find support for breastfeeding? Do you think support is readily availabe for all mothers? If so, why do you think mothers are not connecting with the support that is available?

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 1:02am
nisupulla wrote:

Is there any debate about how one should go about finding support?

I don't think their should be but there are those that will argue that certain venues of support or too militantly pro-BF/anti-formula, anti-working mom, and uncompassionate/rude/bullying. LLL gets this charge a lot often by mothers who never actually been to an LLL meeting or who have had one negative experience at an LLL meeting and feel that justifies tarring the whole organization as something for BF'rs seeking help to avoid. I also expect there are some moms out their that refuse to believe that doctors are not as informed about BF'ing as commonly thought or at least believe their doctors is better informed then others when they are not. As such, they would strongly disagree with the idea of not trusting your doctor for BF support. Many of these health care providers who are providing such poor support for BF'ing seem like they don't want to admit they are woefully unprepared to provide good BF support and would likely take issue with suggestions that the average doctor,


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Wed, 08-31-2011 - 7:45am

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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 4:18pm
IMO I think that support that a mother BF needs should start at home- with her family, husband, SO,partner who would be the #1 person.
With out support starting at home it would make looking for support else where pointless.

If ones partner-SO-husband does not offer the support a new mother needs you can feel deflated, depressed and like you are a failure at trying to BF. Trust me been there done that with my EX and it was the most crushing feeling in the world. My parents, grandparents everyone encouraged me to BF my dd. BUT my EX showed me ZERO support........he would ridcule me for trying, ignore my cries for help with DD. So i quit and was focuing on ME not HER..............while still being ignored and un-supported by the Ex.

FF to now- my dh absolutlywanted me to BF our older ds and this ds who is8 weeks old.............he gave meso much support and still is giving it to me, he helps me with EVERYTHING and just praises me for BF and not using formula................... it does make a HUGE difference.

As for looking for support start with your lactation consultant at the hospital who can direct you to a BF suport group in your area. Check out the LLL website HUGE support group there. ALso look to your friends too ;)
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