Maybe we should not call it "a choice"?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Maybe we should not call it "a choice"?
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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 1:23pm

Everyone talks about the BFing /FFing debate as if it was a choice - a personal choice, a parent's choice, a right to choose. But does thinking of it as a choice weaken our position? Does it absolve others from supporting the breastfeeding mother - as if it is her fault, her responsibility - because she was the one that chose it?

Quote:

"Central to the symposium is the notion that breastfeeding is not a “choice.”

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Registered: 04-18-2001
Interesting! I hadn't thought of it that way, but making it a choice does put it more on the mother than the support system that should be there to ensure BFing occurs for the health of the baby. (I also think you could make the same argument about choice when it comes to abortion and adoption, but that's a debate for a different board!)

Our society has a habit of shifting blame/responsibility but it's time to come together and start raising our babies and children together as much as we can.

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Registered: 03-16-2010

There's no reason for it to be either/or.

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Registered: 10-01-2010

Hey Jessica - it's good to see you here again - it's been a while?

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Registered: 04-13-2008

I have always thought of a baby's right to be breast-fed. I do therefore think that it flows on that a mother has a right to breast-feed her baby.

I have always found it difficult to understand a certain segment of the women's movement that sees breastfeeding as unnecessary and even as oppressive of women. It seems to have come from the struggles to join the workforce, and in so doing, to somehow prove that women as not just as good as men, but somehow the same as men.

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witch_power wrote:

Hey Jessica - it's good to see you here again - it's been a while?


Thanks.

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Registered: 10-01-2010

Wow! Congratulations!! :D

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Registered: 03-16-2010

Thanks! :)

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Registered: 05-20-2008

I have always found it difficult to understand a certain segment of the women's movement that sees breastfeeding as unnecessary and even as oppressive of women. It seems to have come from the struggles to join the workforce, and in so doing, to somehow prove that women as not just as good as men, but somehow the same as men.

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Registered: 04-13-2008

What a great post Charleen. I always love reading what you have to say, and that was quite deep and profound.

I must say that what I find is great is that gradually, we are getting more baby friendly workplace conditions, with compulsory paid maternity leave finally introduced this year, at a basic level for 18 weeks or so. It is a start. Some jobs already have better conditions than that.

When my children were little, and I was working, and pumping, I certainly did it for their benefit, but I did not find it any kind of liberating experience. In my heart I really wanted to be home with them. I was not even happy to go out for an evening without them; I would have much rathered shoose an outing where they could come, or not go out at all.

Teresa