Melissa Fay Greene
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|Thu, 08-16-2012 - 4:46pm|
What a great article! I just found it today. It's sort of a rebuttal to Badinter's anti-mothering jibberish. Enjoy!
The last two paragraphs:
Most mothers are doing the best they can. They swing-shift, job-share, freelance, temp, telecommute, fill in, work part-time, babysit for others, substitute, carpool, invent and consult. Young American mothers today, to an incredible degree, are discovering how to generate income from home, online. Millions of women see the rearing of children as the richest, most meaningful work they will ever do. But even the Most Extreme Devotees of Mothering live in the real world; they, too, must buy groceries and gas, pay rent or a mortgage, and pay back student loans. Some will make do with the old car, the small house, the clothes from the consignment shop, if it will allow them to stay home with their children another year. Like everyone in this recession-hit world, most hope that someday, when they re-enter the job market, they will find work equivalent to their skills and talents.
To choose -- whether for weeks, months, or years -- l'idéologie du naturalisme, attachment parenting, is not to forgo all ambition. It is not to create a retro scene that, as Badinter writes, "sexist men can celebrate" nor is it to grimly and with a sense of biological destiny take up a life of "masochism and sacrifice." It is to enter into the world of the baby and young child with passion and creativity for as long as a mother finds it enriching and necessary and for as long as she and her partner, if she has one, can afford it. The high energy and joy of my early years of mothering were highlights of my life. It wasn't a trade-off. I wasn't choosing the rearing of happy children over the desire for a career. I always wanted both.