Mum will make the best choice?

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Mum will make the best choice?
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Tue, 02-22-2011 - 6:09pm

I hear this all the time, usually to round off an article on BF vs FF.

Usually, we get a load of points for and against BF and then rounding it off with "but mum will make the best choice".

But is this really true?

Leaving aside abusive mothers, who will usually do what they want and have no particular desire to put their baby's needs first. Forget about them for the moment.

Let's just consider mums who love their kids and want the best for them. How can anybody make the best choice without all the information? Information like the risks of formula and breastfeeding works.

My point is that it's a waste of time to say mum will make the best choice. It does nothing, just denies information to the mother.

Take car seats. With my oldest child, I knew very little about car seats. I didn't rear face him for very long (though we rarely drove anywhere). I did not make the best choice then, because I had information missing. Nobody can make the best choice without all the information. We are failing mothers and babies by only saying "mum's choice" and giving very little actual information or help to mothers. It's not just mum's choice. It's a community responsibility to help mothers do the best for their babies. They are our next generation.

Rose, loved for life by Meghan and mama to Michael Lloyd (24th May 2005), Ella Morghan (5th Jan 2008) and Jolie Bryna (12th May 2010). Co-parenting with André and René.
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Registered: 05-02-2006
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 2:24pm

I think a more accurate statement would be "Mum will make the best choice based on the information she has at the time."

2010 Siggy
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 10:13am

"If we really want to help our fellow mom's, we would best serve them by helping them to know better so that they can then make the decision to do better."

Rose, loved for life by Meghan and mama to Michael Lloyd (24th May 2005), Ella Morghan (5th Jan 2008) and Jolie Bryna (12th May 2010). Co-parenting with André and René.