A need to stand united!
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A need to stand united!
| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 1:23am |
I KNOW I KNOW - this is a debate board, and therefore welcomes viewpoints from both sides of this never-ending issue. However, I just wanted to say that after reading many posts, absorbing opinions and info, that it seems like at the end of the day, we all really want the same thing. We want our children to be healthy and happy, we'd like to go pee without a boob in anyone's mouth, LOL, and possibly for a teeny bit more help with issues outside of feeding.
So, I think, that we really need to put on a united front as mothers, not just as breast feeders or bottle feeders. {I personally chose to breastfeed my 2 kids and will do the same to my next, due in January}, but that does not mean that I can't understand the exasperation and frustration that sometimes accompanies being a walking supermarket! Is it worth it? Yes, I feel it is. It's not always easy, but HELL, this is motherhood we're talking about; it isn't supposed to be! But at the end of the day, even after weaning my children and switching to formula, my ideals and hopes for them were identical.
Just wanted to allow for a small breather, and put a voice to some of the compassion and empathy that I feel for both sides of this issue, regardless of my personal preference.
Best of luck to ALL!
Tabitha, (24)
Winnipeg, MB. Canada.
So, I think, that we really need to put on a united front as mothers, not just as breast feeders or bottle feeders. {I personally chose to breastfeed my 2 kids and will do the same to my next, due in January}, but that does not mean that I can't understand the exasperation and frustration that sometimes accompanies being a walking supermarket! Is it worth it? Yes, I feel it is. It's not always easy, but HELL, this is motherhood we're talking about; it isn't supposed to be! But at the end of the day, even after weaning my children and switching to formula, my ideals and hopes for them were identical.
Just wanted to allow for a small breather, and put a voice to some of the compassion and empathy that I feel for both sides of this issue, regardless of my personal preference.
Best of luck to ALL!
Tabitha, (24)
Winnipeg, MB. Canada.

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"There are aspects of this conversation that put me in the mind of an old commercial-- Mom is in the kitchen (making cookies I think), and using pre-made dough or something of the sort. The family is waiting expectantly for the fruits of her labor in the dining room. She's in the kitchen lounging about, but every now and again shouts out some grunt of hard labor. Finally, after some time, she pops the cookies in the oven, pulls them out a few minutes later, then heads out to the family-- but stops, runs back, tosses some flour on her face & musses her hair, then heads out to the family with the evidence of her 'hard labor' on the plate.
Obviously, Pillsbury or Tollhouse (can't remember who) was making the point that their pre-made dough couldn't be distinguished from "scratch". But, I get the distinct impression (LOL!) that I too should be like the Mom in the commercial, keep up the appearance of "hard", and don't let on what my experience *really* is."
It was Rice Crispie treats, if I remember correctly....lol I always got a kick out of that one....long before break and bake, when making cookies actually took some time and effort (dare I say it was 'harder'??? lol). It was always more fun to make stuff from sctratch though, took more time, but we got to spend more time together...see what I mean about hard work being it's own reward? Not that it's automatically undesireable....
"Unless you were there to see what my sister went through first hand...then you really don't have a clue wether it was worth it for her to breastfeed or not. "
I don't have to be there to see it. Breastfeeding was not the issue. Breastfeeding did not cause her depression any more than breathing causes my asthma.
Cathie
"Maybe for you it would have been...but that doesn't make it true for everyone...just because it is your opinion."
Well, actually, when I had supply problems, I supplemented with formula.....
Cathie
OK, yeah, totally off topic but I LOVED that commercial! LOL The mom reached into the fishbowl and splashed water in her face then poofed some flour from her oven
The drug she's referred to is Reglan. Depression and anxiety are a relatively common side effect. She's not making this up. It's a very reasonable premise to hear of Reglan causing depression and anxiety.
From kellymom:
Reglan has often been used in the U.S.. One major side-effect of Reglan is severe depression; it is contraindicated in moms with a history of depression, and all moms who take this should keep an eye out for signs of depression. One of my sources advises all adoptive mothers to stay away from Reglan, since it has caused serious depression/anxiety in moms regardless of previous history. This depression side effect usually develops over 3-4 weeks, and goes away if mom discontinues the Reglan. Other side effects include diarrhea, sedation, gastric upset, nausea, seizures and extrapyramidal effects (twitching, etc.)
Dana, mom to Kevin (10/24/01) and Jason (10/15/04)
I don't have to be there to see it. Breastfeeding was not the issue. Breastfeeding did not cause her depression any more than breathing causes my asthma.
Can you please explain to me how breastfeeding had nothing to do with my sister's depression. I have never said that it was the direct cause...It did play a part in it though. There are times were breastfeeding had negative results and this was one of those times. Now do not get me wrong....my sister could have made the decision to supplement with formula instead of taking medicine to increase her milk supply...so that was completely her decision and one that she would definetly never do again. There are times where it is better to use formula than to continue breastfeeding.
Well I guess you just must be perfect...that is good for you. My sister didn't want to use donor milk...which is her choice...she did try other ways to increase her milk supply, but since you said that you read the entire thread than I am sure you most already know that...when that didn't work then yes she tried taking that medicine to help increase her supply...if she had known what it would have done than obviously she wouldn't have tried that. Oh and by the way if you ever were to have a depression like she did...you WOULD miss out on your childs life...at least part of it. That I can say is a fact.
Wow!!
In general I find cooking to be stressful in and of itself. DH, being a chef, does 95% of the cooking, which relieves stress for him (unless he's had an exceptionally bad day, then the LAST thing he wants to do is cook some more). For me, and I know this sounds freakish, but cleaning up after him is my stress-reliever. Not the nasty stuff like scrubbing burnt rice from the pan...but the monotony of doing the dishes, wiping the counter, sweeping & swiffering the floor...he thinks I'm a nutjob but it gives him time to play with DS and takes the edge off my obsessive-compulsive personality. He definitely married the right broad!
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