newborns in parents bed

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
newborns in parents bed
37
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 7:55pm
I believe in each to his own. This is a debate board for the sake of debate on certain subjects. In spirit of this I would like those of you who poo-pooed my view of having a newborn in our adult bed as unsafe to read this.

<>



Although the image of a baby and parent dozing off together is not an uncommon one, the practice of cosleeping is controversial in the United States. Cosleeping, or sharing a bed with an infant, claims the lives of 64 children under age 2 each year, according to the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC). This organization cautions parents against sharing beds with their babies, but supporters of cosleeping believe that a parent's bed is just where an infant belongs. But is it safe?

http://babyparenting.about.com/library/weekly/aa100199.htm

Respectfully Reggie.



Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:17pm
Reggie,

Didn't you read my responses to your other posts?

I said that approx. 60 babies die in their parents' bed each year.

However, approx. 4250 DIE IN CRIBS each year!!!

Here is the link....

http://askdrsears.com/html/10/t102200.asp


Yes, there is a lot of "controversy" surrounding this issue in the United States. That isnt' surprising to me at all considering the baby industry is HUGE in the USA and could you imagine if people stopped buying cribs and started sleeping with their babies?

Oh, and another thing...the CPSC and the JPMA (Junior Products Manufacturers Association)? Who do you think the JPMA is?- they manufacture CRIBS. Conflict of interest? No doubt!!!

I personally take the FACTS- and that is that over 4,000 MORE babies per year die in cribs than they do in beds with their parents.

It's pretty clear to me which one is the safer choice.

Avatar for mahogny
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:27pm
Oh gosh, I replied to you in the other thread before I realized that you had started a new thread. I apologize.



Sarah

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:34pm
And Reggie, how can you participate in a debate if you won't even read the opposing viewpoint's information?

There is no point in debating if your rebuttal is simply, "This is the way I do it, so it's right"!!!

I personally feel that if you won't even look at the information and process it, then you must be afraid of being wrong.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:46pm
Every Parenting Issue is a Controversy!

1) bf/ff

2) car seats/booster seats

3) TV/Movies for toddlers/children

4) Co-sleeping/Family bed

5) Crying It Out or not

6) immunizations

7) Discipline

and the list could go on and on and on! My own SIL even makes direct & indirect comments about the CLOTHES I choose to buy my kids ROTFLOL!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:56pm
Reggie, I do agree with you about making the choice that is best for you. I'm certain we're all on the same page as far as that goes (at least on the co-sleeping subject). If you feel that you will not be able to safely co-sleep, then don't do it and I don't recall reading any post that suggested you should. We all have different comfort levels and if sleeping with an infant makes you uneasy, I understand that. However, because you are uncomfortable with the practice doesn't make it unsafe.

And to answer the question, "Is it safe?" Yes, when done properly, co-sleeping is the safest form of sleep for an infant. Yes there are instances where tragic accidents have occured, but they are very minimal, especially when compared to SIDS. Our western culture is very far apart from the remainder of the world when it comes to our children. It has only been recently (in the last 200-300 years) & mostly in western socities that babies have not slept with their parents. Here is one article I found that seems to sum up the positives of co-sleeping.

http://www.wearsthebaby.com/cosleepingrelease.html

I don't expect you to change your mind about what is right for you & your family, but you're wrong to make a blanket statement that co-sleeping is a dangerous practice.

Janet & co-sleeping, nursling Sierra

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 9:00pm
A parent has to do what they feel is *best* in all of these issues...including bf/ff and co-sleeping as well as everything else. One true way will not work universally, it just doesn't.

Yes, co-sleeping *is* safe if done safely. Ita Janet.

<<< don't expect you to change your mind about what is right for you & your family, but you're wrong to make a blanket statement that co-sleeping is a dangerous practice.>>>

Yes. Blanket statements are not accurate for every parent :o)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 9:07pm
I already responded that comparison is silly, many more babies sleep in cribs than in beds. THAT is why many more die in cribs than in beds. Let me simplify this for you with a comparison.. Just like many more Chinese in China die each year compared to Canadians in Canada...because there ARE many more Chinese. Period.

~Reg

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 9:10pm
I don't think you really realize how many people co-sleep these days. You'd be really surprised! I can think of several just from my IRL experiences! I can think of 4 before I hit the post button...who did and still do!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 9:10pm
Absolutely...but if you look at the posts (I read all of them) some were implying that my idea of newborns being safer in a bassinet is misdirected. I also was challenged by Mahogny to show anything stating cosleeping as unsafe.

~Reg

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 9:13pm
No its the opposite! I was basically told that my belief that a baby is safer in a basinet is untrue/unfounded. I was challenged to come up with an article that said anything negative about cosleeping and so I did.

Read the posts yourself. It seems you yourself only wish to debate if you can "win". Frankly if you want to put your baby in a bed, or in a crib is no skin off my back.

~Reg

Pages