NEWS: Mayim Bialik changes Huffington Post writer's thoughts

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Registered: 10-01-2010
NEWS: Mayim Bialik changes Huffington Post writer's thoughts
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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 2:23pm

The title of the article doesn't really jive with the rest of the article - it seems to be there just to start drama?

Stop Judging Other Moms

I hated being pregnant. I didn't even try breastfeeding. I have struggled internally about how I feel about the fact that my kids climb into my bed at night. But after spending some time with

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Registered: 06-10-2008
I totally agree. I don't see evidence of anyone judging anyone. The author attended Mayim's talk, she enjoyed it and it expanded her horizons about a few things. Great. Exactly where is the author being judged?
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Registered: 05-20-2008
dietdrpepperfan wrote:
I totally agree. I don't see evidence of anyone judging anyone. The author attended Mayim's talk, she enjoyed it and it expanded her horizons about a few things. Great. Exactly where is the author being judged?
I think what the author was simply trying to get across as I read it was the idea that Mayim Bialik's method of promoting AP was largely non-judgmental and that she agreed with that approach to promoting a parenting philosophy or practice. I don't think she was claiming anyone was actually juduging her only that she was worried about that happening. The headline was likely written by a editor not the author herself to attract people to read the article. I see headlines on parenting articles that do not accurately reflect the contents the article and are simply put their by an editor trying to attract readers by misrepresenting the contents of the article.
I do agree that Mrs. Bialik approach to advocating AP does make a greater effort at trying to be tolerant of those who don't practice AP and not coming across as either you do it my or your a bad mother as some "parenting experts" do. I do however see some critics accusing others of being judgmental where I don't think it applies simply becuase they don't agree with another parent's choice in a certain area even if they fully accept that parents right to do things differently. I for example have been labeled as judgmental for not always agreeing with a formula feeder's reasons for choosing to FF by choice even though I fully accept it's her right to FF by choice. too many interpret me not taking their assertion that FF really was the best choice at face value as essentially calling them bad mothers. Giving that I know no parent is perfect and thus all can make bad choices from time to time we only realize as such after the fact it does not mean one is bad parent becuase makes a decision to FF that turns out not to be best.
One other thing, I was a little disappointed when i read at the end of the article that she while she was going to reconsider the views she had on some AP a parenting practices like the family bed, she was not going to reconsider whether she would BF future children. That may be here choice but I feel she was doing future children a disservice by not at least not considering even just EP'ing for her future children. I realize I don't know exactly why she thinks BF'ing is not for her but they way she put it she implies that she's only thinking of her own personal preferences and not the effect of her decision on the baby. BF'ing would be not for her indeed by rather for the baby. She really should give BF'ing more thought and see if their are good reasons to push herself to get past whatever hang-up or selfish concerns she has that prevent her from considering BF'ing, assuming the issue is not something like really serious like past child sexual abuse.

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Registered: 04-13-2008

It is interesting that even though this writer finishes with declaring that she would still never consider breastfeeding, she has come to see things in a different light after the discussion.

We hear so often that those breastfeeders are so militant and try to force everyone else into their ways, yet this discussion showed that respectful listening and talking can be very productive. I would also think that in the future, this writer would be more likely to be open-minded about various aspects of breeastfeeding.

It is good how breastfeeders and AP mothers like Myim can have such a