NEWS: An Open Letter To (Overzealous) Breastfeeding Lactivists

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NEWS: An Open Letter To (Overzealous) Breastfeeding Lactivists
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Tue, 04-24-2012 - 6:28pm

Read her whole post here: http://blogs.babble.com/babys-first-year-blog/2012/04/24/an-open-letter-to-overzealous-breastfeeding-lactivists/

She explains all the things she tried and I think she breastfeed both of her children till about 1 year old. She says: "And

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

Yawn burger, side of fries. Same ole, same ole. Ya-da, Ya-da.

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Registered: 05-20-2008

Breastfeeding lactivists? You, you and you? While I know your heart may be in the right place (I’m trying to be graceful here), and not an ounce of judgement or ego do you let alter your choice of approach – (ahem) – and wording with a mother who struggles with breastfeeding….PLEASE. Think before you speak. Not only about your cause (breastfeeding), what you feel so passionately about (agreeably so). But your subject too.

Here is a central problem I seem with critics like this women whom have an issue with many BF advocates and their methods and that is that they don't fully understand the situation with regard to the state of BF support/advice in the U.S. nor due they fully understand what is necessary to be effective in BF'ing advocacy in the U.S.. In order to counter certain forces working against BF advocacy such formula company marketing/propaganda, medical professionals wit poor BF knowledge, and employers who don't properly support working BF'ing moms certain strong techniques are needed in order to get the message across and encourage mothers to overcome the obstacles that they face and not just give up to easily. For one thing, too many mothers don't get good BF advice and information either during their PG or postpartum if they get any at all. Too many of given bad advice or simply told their is no solution other then switching to formula which leads them to either make their BF problem worse or juts give up on BF'ing well before they truly exhausted their option in terms of trying to resolves their issues. While I do agree that their are indeed a few bad actors when it comes to BF advocacy, I disagree that they represent anywhere near the number critics like the author is this article seem to think. I may be true in some cases, we can debate certain ways of wording certain advice and info regarding BF'ing but in general I think the wording used, though it may upset some FF'rs and some moms struggling with BF'ing, is justified and necessary in order to be effective. I don't think that the personal feelings of some FF'rs and some struggling BF'rsd should take precedence over he larger goal of increasing long term BF rates and he;ping mothers struggling get better BF advice and support wether with their current child or with future children (if they are already exclusively FF'ing). Moms are not going to feel bad if they try BF'ing with future children and as a result of something a lactivist said to them they avoid a mistake either they had made with their last baby or that others have made. As more are more moms realize the typical mistakes moms are making when trying to BF then number of moms who end up unnecessarily having to FF goes down. Such moms will not have a reason to feel bad about certain statements or phrasing by BF advocates. While you will always have some moms who will get upset at certain things that BF advocates might say, I believe that so long as the statements are truthful and so long as they benefit more moms then they upset then it's valid to say that as unfortunate as it is the feelings of the few who still get upset are not important enough to justify changing the phrasing or message. For example, I feel that referring to formula as having risks is better ultimately then saying breastfeeding has benefits in terms of effectiveness in promoting BF'ing, and thus the few FF'ing moms who might find such phrasing unpsetting is not worth the cost in terms of promotion of BF'ing.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

they don't fully understand the situation with regard to the state of BF support/advice in the U.S. nor due they fully understand what is necessary to be effective in BF'ing advocacy in the U.S.

That's the irony of the letter, isn't it? The author states that the problem with the Lactivists is that they don't "get" their audience's POV, yet the letter completely fails to address the Lactivist's POV. Conundrum.

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Registered: 06-17-2007
That and honestly, who is going to take her advice to heart? No one is going to listen carefully to advice that tells you that you're doing everything wrong, and assumes that you're wrong because you're a jerk who doesn't care for other people.




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Registered: 04-13-2008

What I thought was interesting though was her belief that her breasts had to feel full and be leaking all of the time, or it meant she had low supply. She said that after the first couple of months, her breasts were not like this. To me that sounds more like her supply regulated to what the baby needed from an early oversupply.