Not allowed to BF in the washroom!

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Not allowed to BF in the washroom!
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Tue, 12-27-2011 - 12:51pm

Whenever the taboo topic comes up online about nursing in public, someone invaribly posts - why don't you just go feed your baby in the bathroom!?

Umm... perhaps they would like to eat their dinner in a public bathroom? Ewww!

But that wasn't my point with this post. I was thinking about my early days, when I did resort once to the public bathroom, due to feeling nervous about BFing in public. I recall balancing on the toilet seat with my little baby, hoping that he would hurry, and no one would hear him slurping away! LOL

When I came out of the stall, I was immediately told off for hogging the stall, that there were people waiting and I had no right to take my baby in there to feed him, because it took so long.

Another suggestion is often posted - some public bathrooms offer nice places for women to nurse their baby.

More often than not, there is nothing provided. If there is something provided, it is often simply a chair situated next to the toilet - a huge improvement??

So I was in Sears one day, and wow, they had a nursing mom's lounge - placed outside of the main toilet area, with a comfortable couch. Unfortunately it was placed right near the door to the bathroom, but I was a very discreet nurser, you could never see any skin.

So women passed by me, nursing on the designated couch, averting their eyes. One woman forcibly grabbed her child, covered her child's eyes, and told me off for feeding my baby there!

Another favourite is to pump a bottle and use that when out in public. Whether or not it is easy to pump a bottle is besides the point, since if baby takes a botle, my breasts are still full of milk - and I would much rather BF my baby in public than pump in public - or a public washroom!

But - since the only reason that I should be expected to pump is because it offends others to see me BF - then FFIng moms should BF their baby in public - because I find it offensive to see them bottle feed. (OK, not really, just making a point!)

Do you know where I was able to BF my babies and not have people make comments and get upset?

Out in public - anywhere and everywhere. I never used a cover, I might find a quiet corner, I never showed any skin. But I nursed my boys in malls, restaurants and in stores. In trains, buses and subways. At trade shows, drop-in centers, and family entertainment centers. At wedding and funerals. At family gatherings and public gatherings. Even on the steps of Capital Hill.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 10:32am

Hi Catherine - I followed you from the vaccinesdb board. I never got in trouble for breastfeeding in public either. Inside was another issue; work for example was impossible, luckily, we had a "first aid" room, but I was asked by the boss not to breastfeed in my office. Also, friends and family gave me a lot of the "are you *still* breastfeeding" from the time DD was about 4 MONTHS old. Sigh.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 10:59am

Hi Caterina - good to see you here! Though slower than it used to be, this board is much busier than the vaccination debate, so I hope you will find it interesting and will stick around. We need some new debaters here!

Someone made a comment on another board that I thought was true - it bothers more people when you use a cover-up - which tend to scream, "I AM BREASTFEEDING UNDER HERE!"

Because several people posted that they were using coverups and you could not even see the baby at all, never mind their breast - when they were blasted by strangers for nursing in public.

But when they didn't use a cover-up, just made sure no skin was showing, no-one said a word. Often because others never even noticed.

Of course, someone else commented that maybe those that don't cover-up and don't make sure no skin is exposed - scare off anyone from commenting - for fear the baby will pull off and they will see even more! LOL

It always surprises me when a man posts that is it disgusting - does he not like looking at women's breasts - or is it disgusting because the baby's head is in the way? ;D

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 8:14pm

Some people do see breastfeeding as a

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 12:55pm

Teresa,

been there, heard that. But I also got a LOT of support, for example from Grandma-in-law who breastfed hers for 2.5 years each. I went longer than that with both and try to be as supportive as I can - unfortunately, tetra-pak seems to be the feeding method of choice around here :(

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 3:13pm

I have bf'd in public a handful of times, always with a cover, and have yet to receive any rude comments - or even nasty looks (I did get a couple of curious glanes from a teenage boy who I believe was hoping to catch a glimpse as I took my cover off or if the baby managed to rip the cover to the side).

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 5:40pm

I always used a loosish blouse/shirt, and lifted it from the bottom up. It then fell around and hid what the baby's body did not cover. These days though, I think there are so many clothing options that make it easy. With the layered looked, a mother could wear a tank top/camisole under another top. Lift the outer top, and pull down the tank top. Or even as some do, cut slits in the tank top. That way there would never be anything showing.