Nursing in public: where do you stand?

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Nursing in public: where do you stand?
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Fri, 01-27-2012 - 3:05pm
It seems that lately most of the posters here are breastfeeding supporters, myself among them. I'm just curious, where does everyone stand? I have a friend who won't bf in public. I know some ladies who do discrete nursing in public using covers or showing no skin. There are also some ladies who feed baby the way it's convenient without being self conscious in front of strangers.
Over the course of my bf relashionship with DD I've been in all three camps at one point. I don't make myself a spectacle but if I'm not layered just right that day, I'm not bothered by showing a little skin so baby can feed. Where do you stand? If you don't or didn't breastfeed, what's your take on nursing in public?

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 4:26pm
I don't mind it. At first it felt very weird to me when DS was born. I was really afraid to feed him in public at first. Over time, I got to be pretty good at it and very discreet. NIP doesn't bother me at all. I have never ever seen someone just "whip it out" in public. I think most people are pretty discreet.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 6:54pm
Like Jen, I was really self conscious when my first was an infant. I tried giving her a bottle when we were out (with pumped milk) but she wouldn't take it, even from someone else, if I was nearby. So I had to learn to nurse in public.

I may have used a blanket or shawl in the very beginning, but then I stopped using any cover. I just wore clothes that helped me be discreet. That and a confident look were all I needed ;)

I've nursed all over the place, including while waiting in line for the London Eye, lol. I'm pretty sure most of the time, most people around me are oblivious.

I still nurse my 1.5 year old in public, and did so for my older DD till she was nearly 3, bc until the last few months before she weaned she was still nursing pretty frequently.

 


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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 7:59pm

With my first, I only BF for 3 weeks and I always hid to nurse him. I didn't even BF in front of family, I would go into another room. I was even uncomfortable about BFing in front of my husband. I am sure it had somethign do do with not making it past 3 weeks, though there were lots of other mistakes I made that contributed to my downfall.

So with my 2nd I was determined to get over it, and practiced in front of a mirror, to assure myself i didn't show any skin. Nursing at LLL meetings really helped me to get more comfortable. There were a few times where I used a blanket in the early days, but I found it more trouble than it was worth. So

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Registered: 02-16-2008
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 9:30am
I've never had a problem with NIP, though it did used to make DH uncomfortable. My compromise was that I would drape a blanket over my shoulder and baby, but I wouldn't cover his head (it was winter, so he needed the cover anyway). Most people just assumed he was sleeping this way.

Now, I'll go to a separate room or ask to use a dressing room if I can tell DS wants to nurse because he's over stimulated, but otherwise, I don't worry about it. I nurse during the church service just about every week, and DS is almost 17 months old. I just keep my hand near his head so I can pull my shirt down quickly.

Oh, and I've found that Victoria's Secret camis are easier to use than nursing tanks, and longer. I REALLY don't want to show my stomach in public.
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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 10:33am
cavenyee wrote:
I've never had a problem with NIP, though it did used to make DH uncomfortable.


Oh, this reminded me - I can't believe I had forgotten this! Josh refused to nurse in public from about 3 months to 9 months old. At first I was only ever able to nurse him by laying down in public - which limited me to the drop-in, friends and family's home.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 2:43pm

I was maybe a teensy bit apprehensive about NIP at first though I was totally OK with the idea of it in principle. Even though area where I live is pretty tolerant/accepting of NIP,

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 10:18am

I've never had a problem with NIP, though it did used to make DH uncomfortable.

This actually frustrates me to no end! I'm OK NIP - though i do have one of those "hooter hiders" that I use because I'm not comfortable with showing any skin and DD is easily distracted these days and I don't want her pulling off before I am ready.

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 10:29am
My DH also is a little uncomfortable with NIP. His thing is, if he sees a lady BFing in public and she happens to make eye contact, he doesn't want her to feel awkward or think he is a pervert for looking that way. I told him that moms who NIP are generally comfortable doing so. He should just look at the baby with a smile to convey his actual feelings: "how sweet! The little one is hungry and is getting nourished by mommy". No nursing mom will think he's being inappropriate for glancing at her baby (especially with me and DD in tow ;-) )
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 8:39pm

I'm fully supportive of BF in public.

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 10:11am
Ugh nipple shields. Mine would come off while DD was feeding. Sometimes she'd drift off if she was tired and come off the breast snoring with the little silicone sombrero still in her mouth lol. Often it would pop off while I was moving DD to the breast. five hands would definitely have been helpful lol. Luckily we only needed them for a few weeks. Good to hear it wasn't just my ineptitude but they are finicky little buggers for other moms too ;-)

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