Pacifiers and breastfeeding

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Pacifiers and breastfeeding
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 11:33pm
OK, I know we have touched on this subject before but I would like to go over it again. Tell me....whether you bf or ff and if you are for or against pacifiers and why. I am talking newborns and infants. No debating toddler use of pacifiers please;) This is strictly babies!!


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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 1:38am
None of my kids ever used pacifiers, and honestly I don't really like them either. I don't really see the reason to start one and it's a hard habit to break. Isn't it really just a tool to quiet them down? I have friends who need to get up at night to give their kids the pacifier back, otherwise they won't sleep. I don't agree with that....just my opinion.

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 2:19am
My son is six months old and he really never got attatched to a paci. Infact he will not suck on one. The only thing he uses his "Soothie" for is to chew on. My sister inlaw babysat a 5 year old who before he goes to bed has to have warm milk in a BOTTLE and then has to have a pacifier to go to sleep....AND WEARS DIAPERS STILL!! I couldn't beleive it!

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 6:18am
Bf with my first and didn't use a pacifier. He ended up sucking his thumb until he was 4 1/2 which in my opinion is a harder habit to break and has more of an impact on dental health.

Bf with my second and gave him a pacifier once nursing was well established. He turned 2 yesterday and uses it to help him sleep. I'm totally ok with babies using a pacifier. When i decide its time for it to go i'll just get rid of it and endure the crying for a period of time. I could not just "get rid" of my older child's thumb.

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 6:30am
FFer definately love the pacifires! I found them to really soothe my DS when snuggled in my arms all cuddled up and ready to go to sleep. Also great *any* other time. DS would take any so we had all styles and colors to match whatever he was wearing and coordinate w/his blanket and bottles. Yes, I will do the same time, everything has to be perfect LOL
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 7:01am
We have never used pacifiers. I tried to give one to my first born and she would gag on it. After that I never attempted to use it again. I don't have a problem with pacifier use but I do think sometimes people use it as a substitute for their attention, if this is a regular occurance, I think it is a bad idea.Lisa.
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:45am
Well, I think pacifiers are just fine - especially for younger babies. They come out of the nice warm cozy womb into the harsh big ol' world - and they experience it all through their mouth. They have a very strong sucking instinct especially for the first 6 or 7 months, and I can't imagine denying such a young baby a source of comfort like a paci if they will take it. Especially for FFers, you can't just feed them every time they want to suck - and if I BF'd, I'm not sure I'd want to act as a pacifier either!

My 5 1/2 month old uses a pacifier to fall asleep for naps and bedtime usually. It relaxes her. Once she falls asleep she spits it out and doesn't want it again until the next nap or sleep time. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, she puts herself back to sleep fine without it. If she is upset (i.e. in the doc's office after shots, or because of her stranger anxiety) she will NOT take the pacifier at all - I wish she *would* to help calm her down! I never just popped in a pacifier for no good reason, and I don't see why it's necessary for them to have if they're just happily playing, etc. - just because I would think it would be harder to break the habit then. Now my DD only associates it with relaxing for sleep.

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:58am
I breastfeed and use no pacifiers at all. I do own 2 though, which I bought to try on my children when they were colicky, after 6 weeks. If they would have taken to them like a duck to water, I would have used them where suitable...i.e. in the car where I *can't* bf them, etc. I would rather nurse to comfort, but that isn't ALWAYS possible.

I am not "against" pacifier use in general...but I am against abusing pacifiers. I see abuse of pacifiers as: not listening to a baby's hunger cues, making them wait and suck on a paci even if obviously hungry...if the baby doesn't *want* a paci, trying to force it on them, and also putting it in their mouth in order to "force" them to swallow their puréed "solids". I see that as the ultimate in cruelty.

However, I have friends who use paci's on a "reasonable" basis and I have no negatives about it. One uses it ONLY in the car.

The other had a very high-needs DS1 and for DS2 she used a paci to make him wait just a few minutes from time to time when she HAD to be there for DS1. He did not have it "plugged in" every time he squaked to keep him quiet.

I'm not against them but do think they should be avoided for the first 4-6 weeks, whether bf or ff. Paci's are like sugarless chewing gum to babies. Not what you want to be giving if a baby is hungry as a newborn, & not what anyone wanting to double their weight in the next few months would *normally* use on a regular basis!

I also think bfing moms should beware that there is still a risk of confusion even if the baby is past 6 weeks.

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:05am
YK everyone feels as they wish but:

"I'm not sure I'd want to act as a pacifier either!"

just thought i'd mention that human beings were "the first paci."...modern pacifiers were modeled after the fact that a baby can pacify itself at the breast, but a ff'ing baby can not pacify at the bottle in the same way.

so...telling someone they are a "human pacifier" if they nurse lots shouldn't necessarily be seen as an insult! ;-)

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:47am
I never used a paci with DS, I don't even own one. With his oral aversion, I'm 100% certain he wouldn't have been able to take it anyway! LOL!

But all that aside, like the others, I don't see the harm if it's done reasonably. Don't give the paci when baby's hungry to delay feeding him, don't use it as a substitute for human contact/calming, etc etc.

Quite honestly, I never minded being a "human paci." In fact, I rather enjoyed it!


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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:52am
My opinion on pacifiers and newborns/infants....

I believe they should be avoided until breastfeeding is established and baby is really good at latching on.

I started using one w/ Grant when he was 2 weeks old. I had cracked, sore, bleeding nipples and a case of mastitis because of it. He already knew how to latch on and was breastfeeding well, so I began to use one and it was a lifesaver! It helped my nipples to heal and helped to avoid a recurrence of mastitis.

Grant currently is 8 months old and will only occasionally take a pacifier when he's VERY sleepy. It helps him to fall asleep, but he doesn't "need" it all the time, so I am quite happy with that.

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