Pacifiers and breastfeeding

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Pacifiers and breastfeeding
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 11:33pm
OK, I know we have touched on this subject before but I would like to go over it again. Tell me....whether you bf or ff and if you are for or against pacifiers and why. I am talking newborns and infants. No debating toddler use of pacifiers please;) This is strictly babies!!


christine


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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:54am
i was pretty concerned about nipple confusion w/ ds so i avoided them. i thought i would never use one, but did try to give him one at 6wks...he never took one, so taking it away was never an issue.

dd appears to have no interest either. though, she's a VERY different baby - spends only about 4-6 minutes at the breast. i doubt she would have interest in non-nutrative suck..ds loved to suck on my or dh's pinkie.

my pediatrician was pretty adament about taking them away at 4mos (and i agree) once the "suck" need diminishes. ds was never interested in my pinkie after about 12 weeks.

personally, i hate to see children "plugged in" i'd much rather see a parent providing the "comfort."

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 11:00am
We had initially not wanted to give our daughter a bink, because we had trouble nursing. However, she was *always* wanted to suck, and not wanting Mom! So we gave her the binky after a few days, and it kept her really happy. Now, at 3 months, she only uses it when it's bedtime or naptime. I never use it as a substitute for affection, and I never give it to her unless she's tired-cranky. She sucks on it when I rock her to sleep, and it usually falls out as she sleeps. If she used it more, I'd reevaluate our use of it, but right now it's fine.

Erin

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 2:54pm
I BF my DS, who is now 5 months old, and he has never taken a pacifier. We tried several different kinds, but he didn't take to any of them. After the first couple of months, we decided to give up, because if he didn't take to it, we'd never have to take it away, and he's really a very easy baby.

We FF our DD, who is now 4 1/2 years old, and she took a pacifier, but around 6 months it became a toy for her to swing around on the paci keeper, so we threw them out and she never missed them.

Lora

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 4:43pm
Maybe it's just my DD... but no way would a paci keep her happy if what she wants is a bottle! She would take a suck or two, spit it right out and go on screaming to let me know she wanted her bottle. Using a paci would not gain me a second between feedings - and if I need to fix a bottle while she's hungry, I have to do it while holding her. Do some babies really accept a paci for a minute or two (or longer) instead of the breast or bottle when they are hungry??? I can't fathom this!

-Deb

 

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 4:46pm
Did it sound like an insult? I didn't mean it to - it's just not something I'd want to feel like!

Anyhoo, that's why I love modern technology. I think it's great that they can come up with ways to give us options in life!

-Deb

 

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 5:53pm
I'm with you- no way will my DD take a binky if she's hungry! She spits it out and cries for the bottle! For her it's a comfort "sleepy" thing. If she's fighting sleep, or is getting cranky and overtired, the pacifier will put her to sleep.

Erin

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 6:26pm
Pacifiers are fine - as long as they are used sparingly. Both of my boys used pacifiers, and both gave them up by the time they were about 6 months old (much to daddy's dismay, lol).

First, if you are bf'ing, I think it is important to delay the introduction of an artificial nipple (pacifier or bottle) until breastfeeding is well established - no earlier than 4 weeks. Before that, letting baby suck on your pinky (nail side on his/her tongue) is better (more like the feel of your nipple in baby's mouth) if you can't offer the breast or baby does't want the breast for some reason.

For my boys, we didn't introduce a pacifier until about 4 weeks. We only used it when I wasn't available to nurse for comfort - either in the car or if I wasn't home. My dh used it more than I did, though since he cares for our children when I'm at work. Even then, I don't think it was used much - but it did help dh comfort baby (cuddle, rock, etc with pacifier) when I wasn't there...which is why he was dismayed when the boys decided they didn't want the pacifier anymore. But, he dealt with the change & has other ways of comforting when I'm away.

I don't like to see pacifiers over used. What really bugs me is when I see a baby crying, obviously needing more than a pacifier, yet mom/dad keeps trying to shove it baby's mouth and holding it there....as baby is crying with it in his/her mouth. I saw this at a store recently & it just broke my heart. The baby couldn't have been more than a couple months old & his/her face was red from crying. A baby that young cries for a reason, it is up to the parent/caregiver to figure out the reason instead of shoving & holding a pacifier in baby's mouth when that is obviously not what baby wants (this mom I saw just held it in baby's mouth & kept shopping, practically ingnoring baby - not even talking to or looking at baby).

Sorry - didn't mean to go off on a tangent. As to Christine's question - I'm okay with pacifiers as long as they are used correctly/sparingly and weaned from early (by about 6 mo or so) so they don't become a habit or something the child needs to rely on once they reach the toddler years.

Michelle

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 7:24pm
BF, she's 3, still breast AND paci! She is addicted to both. ;) IN all seriousnees, she is about 90% weaned from the breast, & only uses the pacifier when she REALLY is needy ... or *I* am needy & need some peace & quiet! She never sleeps w/ it, & the dentist that checked her out said her teeth are fine. I will wean her from it as soon as she is totally weaned from the breast, but for right now, i NEED the paci when she asks to nurse, i am usually able to get her mind on something else, & if not, offer her her "sommy" (which is what she calls her paci). I am of the beleif, just like the breast, she will give it up when she is READY. (w. of course, some encouragement). Even now (she is 3yrs 2 mo) she purposely leaves her sommy in the car when we go places, saying "I'm too big for this & dont want the kids to laugh at me". LOL Dont know WHERE she got that, but SOME kid SOMEwhere must have said something to her. Peer pressure, lol. R~
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:43pm
Bravo, my thoughts exactly! Thanks for expressing them for me!
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:44pm
LOVE MODERN TECHNOLOGY! And Restaurants LOL!