Perception: BFing guilt even among FFing mom?
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|Sun, 07-10-2011 - 6:35pm|
I went to a coupon get-together today, and the topic of free formula and coupons invariably came up. There was a mom with a 4m old baby, who she was FFing. Several moms talked about the formula they used in the past with older children, or were currently using with a new baby. Different kinds of formula were discussed, different problems that caused them to keep switching. Hints and tips about how to get more free formula and coupons and how they had signed up their friends to get more.
Not one word about BFing. Nope, I did not say a word.
Then one mom starts talking about how expensive the soy formula she used with her son was, and how there were never any coupons. Then, with a guilty look around, she protested that she DID BF for the first six months before switching to soy formula, trailing off...
Now it's possible that the others saw it as boasting about being able to BF, or critizing them about FFing, I have no idea. It would have been great to get some feedback on how they percieved her.
What I saw was a woman who felt guilty about stopping BFing, angry at the cost she brought on herself as a single parent on assistance, and thinking that we were all critizing her choice to use formula - despite the fact that no-one else there had admitted to having BF for any length of time - not even tried.
So what is the debate? Hmm... perhaps do you think that my eyes are coloured by my own perception? Do you think that some women feel guilty about chosing to FF, even when nothing has been said?