Posting photos of nursing babies online

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Posting photos of nursing babies online
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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:52am

On another board, a poster has a long siggy that includes a slideshow of nursing babies from her playgroup. Another poster took offense at it and there has been quite the debate over the appropriateness of the siggy. I posted a message inviting people here to discuss that issue, and I hope that one of the posters from that particular playgroup comes here, at least so we can see what the siggy looks like. I'm having a hard time forming coherent thoughts today, LOL! So don't worry if I don't come back to debate the issue with you, I'm trying to get out of the office so I can go home & sleep.


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Registered: 07-10-2003
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 8:47pm

Forgive me if I don't get into the BF/FF with you


I forgive you!

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 8:55pm

"So by your line of reasoning I could create a photo tag "supporting" circumcison,piercing baby girls ears, spanking, Adult Couples nursing, or lighting up a doobie for all that(it is legal in some places), and that would help make it more socially acceptable? That people who would otherwise see the above as abnormal or taboo would suddenly "see the light" and totally change their minds?"

How are these things good for anyone, good for society in any way? These are not postive healthy activities that have huge benefits for the people who do them. Some would be against TOS while the bfing siggie is CLEARLY not. Guess everyone doesn't think it's offensive.

" would love to see the irate fury on the part of BFers if someone created a photo tag showing babies with propped bottles!! "

Propping is an ignorant neglectful act. Why would someone be proud of not touching their baby?

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 8:56pm

>>but I think I also have a point with it.<<

Yes, the point that when people are feeling hormonal, overwhelmed, sensitive, vulnerable,etc. the words and opinions of others have an more intense emotional impact.

I am reminded of that story in the Chicken Soup book in which a guy is planning a suicide attempt, but someone makes a kind statement to him and it is enough to influence him not to take his own life.

Making unsupportive statements to vulnerable people can be like kicking them when they are down and therefore cruel or mean, or at best rude.

But this isn't a support board. This is a debate board. This is where we come when we are not feeling vulnerable, where we squeeze ourselves into those big girl panties and acknowledge that no body owns our emotions, but ourselves. It's where we try to see our biases and learn from others. KWIM?

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:00pm
But it is done. This whole subthread started because I directly replied to someone who I felt was unnecessarily rude and deliberate. Someone asked me to post links, and when I went back to post them, they were all removed by the CMs. If that doesn't prove that they were uncalled for, I don't know what does. I'm not saying it doesn't come from both sides, only that it does. Neither side holds the moral highground, in any debate.
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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:05pm

>>I'm not saying it doesn't come from both sides, only that it does. Neither side holds the moral highground, in any debate. <<

What does it mean if it seems like a compliment and a bit of a relief to be told you don't hold the "moral highground" because you're so used to be accused of being "holier than thou"?

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:05pm
No, I don't mean that my point was to kick someone while they are down, sorry. I thought it was an apt metaphor. If I wanted to promote awareness for testicular cancer, would it or would it not be appropriate to post a picture of either what a lump would look like, or how to do a self exam. I apologize that you are going through it right now, and I'm sorry that it hurt you.
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:07pm

>>But this isn't a support board. This is a debate board. This is where we come when we are not feeling vulnerable, where we squeeze ourselves into those big girl panties and acknowledge that no body owns our emotions, but ourselves. It's where we try to see our biases and learn from others. KWIM?>>

Now, now, I take offense to big girl panties line...LOL! Actually, I love the description and you are so right. I have learned so much and have grown in this area, as well as coming to understand different ways to parent.

Again, I think these pictures do some good, especially in getting people to think and debate, in also allowing those who did not nurse to see what nursing is all about. I did not even know what it looked like (as my family is aging, and these were no babies around, me being the youngest for so long) that it was refreshing to see.

Spud...







Lilypie




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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:07pm
Actually, I said neither side does. :) Equal opportunity, I am. After almost 8 years on a different debate board, I know exactly how you feel.
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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:11pm
The panties or the squeezing into them part!
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:18pm

<<>>

THANK YOU for this post! This is what I have been trying to convey all along. Why is it a problem that I "don't care" what people think of seeing me BF, but not a problem if they require me to do things to ease their discomfort, sometimes at my own expense or that of my baby. Why are their delicate sensibilities more important that my child's right to eat, or my right to feed him wherever and whenever it needs to happen? I definitely agree they might be the ones behaving selfishly and rudely in that situation, and not me!

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