Posting photos of nursing babies online
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Posting photos of nursing babies online
| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:52am |
On another board, a poster has a long siggy that includes a slideshow of nursing babies from her playgroup. Another poster took offense at it and there has been quite the debate over the appropriateness of the siggy. I posted a message inviting people here to discuss that issue, and I hope that one of the posters from that particular playgroup comes here, at least so we can see what the siggy looks like. I'm having a hard time forming coherent thoughts today, LOL! So don't worry if I don't come back to debate the issue with you, I'm trying to get out of the office so I can go home & sleep.
As "Linda Richmond" (aka Mike Myers) from SNL would say, "talk amongst yourselves."
Mary
Mom to Kevin 11/04/2003
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"OK now getting myself even further in, but if it is truly a lifestyle choice then the mother could resent the child for breastfeeding and the changes in routine that it could entail. So now we run into the risk/benefit analysis. Personally, I think that a strong bond between parent and child is far more beneficial than the risk of resentment. It can also be said that a person feeling this way should not have a child, but unfortunately it is not our choice of who can breed."
The very act of motherhood changes a person's routine. Breastfeeding is the way to minimalize added energy expended to go to the store, wash and prepare bottles, sterilize nipples, etc.
As for the statement about not being able to choose who can breed, well, IRL I know a few women who I wish had been sterilized at birth. My best friend's niece being a perfect example. Her dd was only 2 days old when she dropped her off with my friend so she could go boating. What was so thrilling about a boat ride? There was beer and drugs there. She would rather be drunk/high than take care of her child. For her bf'ing wasn't compatible with her lifestyle of "I can't wait for this kid to be out of me so I can get messed up." A direct quote (I worked with her briefly, I failed her out of training because she was an idiot lol) except change "messed" for a less than iVillage friendly word.
Elissa
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Kerri,
I hope you didn't take this post as an accurate assessment of the general tone of this board:
>>The crux of it seems to me to be that many BF moms think that FF moms choose formula because they are just not as informed/intelligent/caring as they are.<<
It is anything but.
You said that you:
>>really have not found the truth in the assumption that ff mommies are un or misinformed.<<
I do not believe that anyone on the BF side of this debate has ever expressed disdain for a mom who says "I factored in the risks of FF vs BF and have decided to FF". The debate really hinges on whether people believe that BF makes a difference. It is clear from your posts that you do, enough to feel badly, even though you had no choice.
There really are people who come to this debate board believing that "breast is best, but formula is just as good" and that there are no good reasons to BF. It would be difficult, as you can imagine, to consider those people informed. KWIM?
~nisu
"You know...some of us really don't have a choice on what we feed our babies. I have a rare GI disease and require up to 10 rx medications on a daily basis (some with contraindications to bfing)and all that rhetoric does is make moms that have or even choose to give their children formula feel bad."
And I'm sure each of those 10 meds comes with an insert outlining the risks. And I'm sure that with each one of them, you acknowledge that the risk of each is still there, but that the risk of not taking them is greater. Requiring the meds doesn't make the individual risks disappear. You have no choice but to accept them.
Suppose your neighbour started taking those 10 meds. She tells you that if you take them, why can't she? If they are safe enough for you, they must be safe enough generally right?
The purpose of communicating the risks of infant formula is to make sure people do know that this isn't a Pampers vs Huggies decision. There are real risks to infant formula, and if you cannot breastfeed, the risks of formula ARE much less than the risks of the alternatives. But when breastmilk IS available, people need to know that there are risks, there are differences, it's not Pampers vs Huggies.
If someone pointed out the risks of those 10 meds to your neighbour, would it make YOU feel bad?
Cathie
Hey Mary,
See you in detention! I'll be getting a "chemistry" lesson!
~nisu
"Breastmilk decreases/ formula increases at best could be a case of semantics. I still hold to the breastmilk decreases risk, because it IS the breastmilk that is decreasing the risk."
Does having vitamin C in your diet decrease the risk of rickets? Or does a lack of vitamin C increase your risk of rickets. If rickets were the norm, I could buy the Vit C decreases the risk.
Cathie
That is a very chicken and egg argument that you started. However, it doesn't really matter as you have no way of knowing why someone would put any blinkie on unless they were to tell you that was the reason. It could just be because they thought it was cute, not as an attack or effect of the bfing blinkie.
Kerri
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