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Posting photos of nursing babies online
| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:52am |
On another board, a poster has a long siggy that includes a slideshow of nursing babies from her playgroup. Another poster took offense at it and there has been quite the debate over the appropriateness of the siggy. I posted a message inviting people here to discuss that issue, and I hope that one of the posters from that particular playgroup comes here, at least so we can see what the siggy looks like. I'm having a hard time forming coherent thoughts today, LOL! So don't worry if I don't come back to debate the issue with you, I'm trying to get out of the office so I can go home & sleep.
As "Linda Richmond" (aka Mike Myers) from SNL would say, "talk amongst yourselves."
Mary
Mom to Kevin 11/04/2003
CL, Breast vs. Bottle Debate

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No, it's okay! Sometimes you just have to see it written out a bunch of times before you get the right words down. I'm patient, and I am happy to discuss this with you. :O)
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ITA with you. There are definitely things I have done as a parent that I could have done differently, and that I do sometimes beat myself up for. Going back to the feelings of resentment, for example, I have felt negatively about my child and myself as a mother many times, and it never feels good. When I feel badly, I realize I need to change something so it starts feeling good again, KWIM? I didn't know as much about CIO as I do now, and I feel badly that I allowed my son to do that even for the small amount of time I let it go on for. I didn't like it much at the time, but knowing what I know now, I won't try it again with a future child. I had an epidural when I delivered my son; I probably will avoid that next time because I am more aware of the risks now. Do you see where I am going with this? I think the key is realizing that we're human, and we aren't always going to make the best choices or feel great about the ones we do make. We're learning as we go, and all we can do is try our best.
To bring this back to FF vs. BF, I don't think an FF mom is necessarily "not doing her best" as a mom; it's a personal decision to make, and I think she should have the freedom to make that choice in peace. I would hope, in any case, that the mom choosing FF has done some research and understands that there is risk involved in FF. Moms who can't physically BF their babies (for myriad reasons) have less of a choice, but that doesn't negate the risks of FF either. Formula is still formula, with all its inherent risk, whether BF is physically possible or not. I didn't know about all these risks until I really started engaging in this debate. Cyber_steph27 had a similar experience that she has posted about in this thread. Just FTR, I don't go around lambasting my IRL friends for their feeding choices, LOL. The point is that in this particular area, I know *I* wouldn't be making my *own* best choice for my son, KWIM? It's not to say that another mom's decision to FF is inferior to mine, per se. It's that for *me*, it wouldn't be the best *I* could do, with what I have available to me. I hope that makes it a little bit clearer. ;O)
"Noone has said that women who choose formula don't know any better? Noone has said that women who choose formula just don't have all the information? Noone has said that women choose formula do it because convenience is more important than their children?"
No one has said *all* women who choose formula don't know any better. But *some* don't. By their own words.
No one has said *all* women who choose formula just don't have all the information. But some (many) don't. By their own words.
I haven't seen any one saying anything about women choosing formula because its convenience is more important than their children, except for specific cases.
ilve2read
"The crux of it seems to me to be that many BF moms think that FF moms choose formula because they are just not as informed/intelligent/caring as they are."
Where exactly did you pull this one from?
Cathie
Formula itself increases risk because of what it is lacking, not because of what it contains.
But I think it even goes beyond this and increases risk because of some of what it contains too.
>>There is precious little common sense to be found here<<
Coming from you, that's hilarious!
>>The AAP in particular. They can't make up their minds as to what the real "risk" of formula really is. They were behind the effort to water down the breastfeeding ads because they disagreed with the outrageous claims the ad agency was making. They said that the info in the ad, that babies were more likely to die, to have leukemia, etc had no scientific proof, yet one of the team of doctors disagreed and said that there WAS proof. So who is right?<<
Proof?
This isn't what happened at all. The formula companies had a conniption about the ads and put pressure on the gov't (who funds the ad council AND provides funding to the AAP). It had nothing to do with faulty science; it had to do with money.
Which is another GREAT point: what does the AAP and WHO have to gain by promoting bf'ing? NOTHING. In fact, they are losing "grant" money from the formula companies and bottle supply companies, as well as revenue in health care costs due to increased illness and death from formula use. If there weren't a clear risk to formula, why would the AAP promote it at all?
<<I think you need a serious history lesson if you think Nazi = people who mass murder other who don't think like they do. >>
Gee, sorry, I meant those who advocate the eradication of those who don't think like they do. Is that really any better?
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