Posting photos of nursing babies online

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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:52am

On another board, a poster has a long siggy that includes a slideshow of nursing babies from her playgroup. Another poster took offense at it and there has been quite the debate over the appropriateness of the siggy. I posted a message inviting people here to discuss that issue, and I hope that one of the posters from that particular playgroup comes here, at least so we can see what the siggy looks like. I'm having a hard time forming coherent thoughts today, LOL! So don't worry if I don't come back to debate the issue with you, I'm trying to get out of the office so I can go home & sleep.


As "Linda Richmond" (aka Mike Myers) from SNL would say, "talk amongst yourselves."

Mary


Mom to Kevin 11/04/2003


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Registered: 07-10-2003
Tue, 09-11-2007 - 11:24am

It was me and I did get it.


I'm not used to having someone around with the same name.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
Tue, 09-11-2007 - 11:30am

No disclaimer necessary....I don't take it personally, however it is my sister in law...my mom would never lay claim to her!!!

Kerri

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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 11:31am

>>So they have each had times where they needed me more than the others, and I guess part of being in a family is learning that sometimes another person's needs are more important but you are still loved through it. And really, the time spent BFing isn't all that long in anyone's life. I just would never think of not taking my kids to their specialist visits hours away just because someone might feel left out or resent the time given to that child. It's a part of life, and an important lesson to learn.>>

That is why you are such a cool Mum Becca and you certainly have not had it easy. Even Mums need time outs. My mother would sometimes say, I need five minutes and you will have to go play in the yard until I am ready. It is not cruel or mean, sometimes Mum wants peace. As kids, we learned to play quietly until 8 because my mother did not want/need to get up at 5 when we did at ages 3 and 5. I am very happy my mother taught me to be considerate and I carry that with me in adult life.

On the other hand, I was a handful at 5 and my parents had to give me the time they could and my sister had to learn to wait. She got back at me at age 12 by being a holy terror!

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Lilypie




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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 11:57am

"No disclaimer necessary....I don't take it personally,..."

WHEW!!! One never knows on debate boards, so I played the "better safe than sorry" card. :o)

"...however it is my sister in law...my mom would never lay claim to her!!!"

Ah. One of THOSE. We read about them all the time on the "in-laws" board.

ilve2read

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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 12:52pm

On the other hand, I was a handful at 5 and my parents had to give me the time they could and my sister had to learn to wait. She got back at me at age 12 by being a holy terror!>>>

I've heard moms say that the ones who were hard when they were small are easy when they get older and vice versa. Going by that Gabe should be a dream, Owen somewhere in the middle, and Liam, who is very laid back at 2 will be difficult later on. I'm curious to see how they turn out!

becca

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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 1:53pm
Me either. I've met maybe 3 or 4 in my life that spell it the same way as me. More often I meet Caroline's. Funnily, if we had a girl we were going to name her Celia (for my Grandmother).

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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 2:25pm

Thank you for saying exactly what I was thinking, but too tired to get into.

Elissa


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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 2:59pm

I have been thinking of areply to this, however I can't. I would not do something to the determent of my child to provide myself more comfort. There are people who would, but I am not in their head to understand how they rationalize/defend that position. My husband and myself are in agreement that our childs needs come before our wants, so it has not been an issue in our relationship/family. However, I am not blind to the fact that it does happen, but I don't have the opinion that a mother who is giving her child formula because she has made an informed decision on what is in the best interest of her family is putting her child at a significant risk. I am not her and therefore can not make the risk/benefit analysis for her particular situation. There is a general feeling that I have gotten from this debate (and this could just be my own personal feeling...no one has said this or even remarked at all anything to this extent) that the ladies are putting formula on the same level as doing something intentionally harmful to a child. I do not believe that blanket statement that forumal harms babies. I have a happy and healthy 2 year old (well she has a cold right now...as do I, my breast milk would not have saved her from this one) who has never had an ear infection, only 3 colds/fevers/infections in her entire life. Is she at a risk for obesity/diabetes, etc...Yes, we all are. We, in general, eat crap...none of the processed crap that we consume were we meant to consume, formula included, but if we maintain a healthy diet and care for ourselves we can expect a longer life expectancy than when there were no processed foods or baby formula...oh medical science you are an angel of mercy and the devil in disguise all at once! (spouting all of this off while eating a bag of sun chips myself....hypocrite...yes I am...but there is something to be said for the yummy factor!)

Kerri

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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 4:06pm

>>I've heard moms say that the ones who were hard when they were small are easy when they get older and vice versa. Going by that Gabe should be a dream, Owen somewhere in the middle, and Liam, who is very laid back at 2 will be difficult later on. I'm curious to see how they turn out!>>

And I can say that was the case in my home. I was a holy terror at 8 and my sister was truly laid back and got her revenge at 12. At 14, I basically was left to grow up as my sister was a hand full. Not that a 14 year old minds and I truly was a lot more responsible then my peers because of my sister whom I do not hate or resent and neither my parents who were juggling the best they can.

Now I also heard a dream baby become a terrible 2 and vice versa. I can say Kylie was the best baby at 2 months. She slept, ate, and burped on command. Now, just this month, there is no getting her to do anything. She bites, throws things in anger and will not stay put for 2 minutes unless Pooh is on. On the other hand, she hated to be rocked, bounced, touched or hugged at 2 months (very sad Mummy then), and now she wants hugs, kisses and tickling. She will lie on me on the couch and wants to be carried (Miss Princess) everywhere.

I do believe that we have to raise our children in the direction we want them to go in however, you really never know how they will turn out. I wanted to snuggle my newborn and Kylie wailed so I had to give in and let her sleep in her swing. Now, I sometimes want to say enough, I can only carry 26 pounds for so long!!!!!!

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Lilypie




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Tue, 09-11-2007 - 8:26pm

"I don't feel the need to "exceed" my parents. They did a fine job, I admire them....why would I want to one up them? "

I'm grateful that my mother taught me to think for myself, as she was taught. I value all the advice my mother has to offer me, and part of that advice includes thing's SHE's learned. She doesn't see my bf'ing as "one upping" her, or my not smoking, or any of the other ACTIONS I do differently. Her values and advice - those are timeless.

Cathie

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