"Proud Formula Feeder"?

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"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm

In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.

While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:07pm

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LOL! My mom's an RN too, and I learned very early to not hang on every word a doctor says.

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Registered: 02-20-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:42pm
I was afraid of that.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:14pm

>>I also don't get why bfers have tickers and such that proclaim them "proud" of bfing<<

I can think of at least a couple reasons why a mother would be proud of BFing. A lot of people have difficulty BFing and put in a serious effort in order to pull it off. There is a truly, awesome feeling when you hold your six month old and know that your own body is what transformed the tiny newborn into the pudgy baby. It is nothing short of pride.

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:43pm

Especially when it's been forever since we had a thread go this long and we're in the mood to blow off some holiday steam. ;-)

-jeanine

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Registered: 11-17-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:57pm


...does make one wonder why she chose to ignore you...!

I think she ignored Catherine's question because she knew that there were no mittens for her child. It sounded like she was too poor to buy mittens and too proud to say so.

I see the correlation as being *unable* to do the "expected thing" (have mittens/breast feed) and feeling criticized when questioned about it.

Just like a mother having problems with breast feeding can be helped to bf her child if she'd only say something, that mother could have had mittens for her child if she'd only said something.

ilve2read

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 10:04pm

Side note: Do not give up on LC's. The first LC I used (paid out of pocket and she came to my home) was a friggin nightmare. She was just awful. However, I did not judge all LC's by this one fool. So, I contacted another one, talked more to her on the phone and she was wonderful and really helped me alot.

Call an LC (if you are still thinking about one) and really ask her questions on the phone to get to know her.

BTW, are you sure the people helping you in the hospital were LC's?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 7:17am

I recently had a month long business trip and my employer flew DH and the kids (ages 8 and 6) up.

Cathie

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:04am

I just wanted to add that I appreciate that breast feeding is not easy for many and is a committment however, bottle feeding requires a different kind of labour and there were many days when I had to really push myself to do all those jobs needed to bottle feed, and for that I am proud.

I always wanted to make sure that I had everything prepapred in advanced and I always used sterilized water which might or might not have been important but was to me.

I sterlized for six months and then I washed carefully. I also switched to a sippy cup at 9 months so that she would be weaned before a year off bottles.

So, am I proud of that, yes, because I did what I thought was important!

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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:49am

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ROFL!!

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You can hate me, but do it because you know me, not because I’m a member of a group. Anyways, people aren’t grapes --- you can’t weigh them in a bunch, but I guess it’s easier than dealing with people as individuals. There, I’ve solved the riddle of prejudice: it saves time.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 1:35pm
Again, you don't really know *why* any given woman decides to ff her child, unless you ask her. What I was refering to was people who randomly criticize women for formula feeding when when no one asked them what their thoughts on the subject are. I never denied that "breast is best", and I don't know what my gut looks like and would not ever claim to. Confrtonting people without provocation is wrong and unproductive *if* you are trying to re-educate.
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