"Proud Formula Feeder"?

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"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm

In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.

While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 11:30am

then perhaps you should take that into account before proclaiming that a BF baby is starving to death.

-jeanine

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Registered: 04-17-2005
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 12:00pm
I never said she was starving to death or that it was because she was BF. She is 7 weeks old, not following objects with her eyes, and apparently doesn't wake herself up for feedings (they have to wake her every 4-5 hours to get her to eat). Just saying that she is losing weight. I will find out the weighing details today.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 5:09pm

"I never said she was starving to death or that it was because she was BF. "


Well, all of this is in response to what you said in post "I know of 2 people who would let their child starve... one currently is! " and the subject was refusing to give formula.

Cathie

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 5:12pm

My thoughts are that some put "proud formula feeder" because of the constant harassment for those making the choice to bottle feed instead of BF. With my first, our son was taken to the NICU, and trust me I tried pumping everything to allow him to just the milk, but my doctor said with all the stress that I was under that it would be difficult even if I would be able to at all.

Now with our new one coming due in less than 6 weeks, I've almost been on the verge of an anxiety attack because the constant pressure that I receive to BF from my friends not to mention those that don't even know me. Our first son after the stint in NICU has been quite healthy actually less sick that those of my friends that did BF. No ear infections just an occasional viral infection. Considered Gifted and Talented.

FF substandard? No I don't think so do the formulation from years past it's not like their giving their babies whole milk. Pride? why not? Why should women who choose or can BF be the only ones that have pride of what they chose for their child. Cost? where there's a will there's a way. Waiting until you can afford a child, people would be waiting forever. You make the necessary changes to your lifestyle in order to accommodate the cost of having a child.

I don't judge those who choose to BF even if they chose to in public nor should I be judged if I so choose to FF. And yes if I do FF I will have pride in the fact that I am a mother and providing the best that I can for my baby. That's what's it's all about. Right?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 6:17pm

Welcome!

Cathie

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Registered: 07-12-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 6:53pm

Cost? where there's a will there's a way. Waiting until you can afford a child, people would be waiting forever. You make the necessary changes to your lifestyle in order to accommodate the cost of having a child.


Sigh, if only this were true.

siggy
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Registered: 07-12-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 6:55pm

but my doctor said with all the stress that I was under that it would be difficult even if I would be able to at all.


I certainly hope this isn't the Dr you're seeing this time around.

siggy
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Registered: 07-12-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 6:57pm

FF substandard? No I don't think so do the formulation from years past it's not like their giving their babies whole milk.


When you compare FF to whole milk, yes it would be considered superior.

siggy
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Registered: 07-12-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 6:59pm

I don't judge those who choose to BF even if they chose to in public


Hmmm, I feeling judged b/c I DO nurse in public with wording like that :(


And yes if I do FF I will have pride in the fact that I am a mother and providing the best that I can for my baby. That's what's it's all about. Right?


Except that FF is not what's best for a baby, yours included I'd dare say.


siggy
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 10:10pm

>>Sigh, if only this were true. My only beef with formula is when parents plan on/rely on WIC to pay for it. Choose to feed your infant the standard/best or not, but pay for it with your own means. (not directed at the poster, just in general)<<

Okay, okay.... I know I'm going to take a lot of flack for this, and please keep in mind I understand that there are people out there who really need it and aren't trying to take advantage of the system. That being said, couldn't we say the same thing about WIC paying for *anything* for a child? Don't plant the seeds if you can't tend the garden? You can't just restrict it to formula.

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