"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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| Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm |
In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.
While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?



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"Thanks for that! It has been a long road for me. I have read a lot on this board and some posts are hard to read. There is nothing harder then overcoming PPD and if it were not for Kylie, I would not be nearly as strong as I am today. There is a lot of assumption on both sides and formula feeding was not easy by far."
Hey man, BTDT. PPD can be a freaking nightmare!!!!! I had it with all 3 kids. I don't know how DH managed some days! Formula feeding is not easy. I found it much harder than I found BF, once I got the hang of BF. Throw in PPD along with difficulty breastfeeding and you have yourself quite a cocktail! I didn't know whether my bf problems were caused by, or just exacerbated by my bf experience with DD1. I know how hard it can be on both sides. Many of the women on here do. I think that what makes some of us so adamant about getting the right information and help to people, because with that you can be more successful! If there is a problem to be had wrt bf, I am sure at least one of here has had it. If not, it is likely one of us may know where you can get info to help.
"Ah, okay. I had visions of a new public service announcement. "Atten-SHUN! Sergeant Breastmilk here, telling you to breastfeed or drop and give me 20!""
ROFL
I think her spell checker worked to her disadvantage :)
"As far as the WIC comment, I can see both sides. I understand the opinion of not providing formula for thoise women who just darn well don't feel like breastfeeding, and I think there is difference between someone who was unable to, for whatever reason, and someone who just thinks the government should pay for her baby's food because she is entitled to have a baby she cannot afford. "
The problem, as I see it, is that it would be *very* difficult to *prove* who couldn't and who just didn't want to bf. So, without making it mandatory, we kind of have to suck it up and get over it. That's all I was trying to say. Yes it stinks that my tax dollars go to provide something that the woman could provide for free, but it goes back to the 'who gets to decide what constitutes trying hard enough' thing. Without big brother being the deciding factor (and I think we can all agree that that would be unacceptable) WIC should cover formula as well as other foods for those who need it. JMHO.
I donated my freezer stash of EBM to another mom through
* Milk Share *
I donated my freezer stash of EBM to another mom through
* Milk Share *
Yes... thanks... my doc and I have talked some just because I had PPD before. I have a prescription for Zoloft and *should* be taking it... but when my mild version of morning sickness made me nausiated at the very *sight* of any pills I just quit taking it. Now I'm a bit afraid of starting back up again without 'weaning up' like they suggest (starting with a very small dose and adding to it every few days). Also I want to wean off it again in the last couple of months so the baby doesn't have withdrawl symptoms and start taking it again right after the birth... so part of me keeps saying "Why bother to start?"... but I know I should... and I will! I'll do it today! I promise. :)
Kristy
Kristy,
Self talk is amazing, we can talk ourselves into and out of anything! I know that for myself, taking pills meant I was sick, no matter how I wanted to lie to myself whereas if I did not ake anything, well, maybe I was not sick!
Do this for yourself. You are a wonderful mother who wants to do what is best for her kids...just do not forget yourself...
I know you well enough to know that you deserve this, you deserve to be happy! I am rooting for you!
GL and if you ever want to talk, you know where to find me!
Spud...
PS: I will give credit that the women here believe strongly in their convictions on breast feeding however, I will say that there is some speaking down. I am being honest and that is what can get mothers pitted against mothers. Whether it is 1st or 4th, the point is not where formula falls, it is about what the intention of the mother is. When I use to formula feed my child, it was not the question itself, it was the tone.
OK, I'll bite since in this thread at least, I seem to be the most "vocal" about ranking =)
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