"Proud Formula Feeder"?

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"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm

In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.

While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 1:35pm

>>>Probably you would have had WAY more mother-to-mother support to help Kylie learn to feed. I doubt she would have died...it is HARD to BF in a society that only knows about bottles.>>>

I find it is best to use quotes in the actually post because I am a little slow myself...I am sure it is a direct response to something I said. How would I have had way more mother-to-mother support?

Thanks!

Spud...







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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 2:31pm

">>>Probably you would have had WAY more mother-to-mother support to help Kylie learn to feed. I doubt she would have died...it is HARD to BF in a society that only knows about bottles.>>>

I find it is best to use quotes in the actually post because I am a little slow myself...I am sure it is a direct response to something I said. How would I have had way more mother-to-mother support?

Thanks!

Spud..."

The quote you are quoting wasn't from me.... it was from post #591 (macbump)

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 2:35pm

"I find it is best to use quotes in the actually post because I am a little slow myself...I am sure it is a direct response to something I said. How would I have had way more mother-to-mother support?"

I believe she was responding to your comment/concerns about "What would have happened to Kylie before formula came along?" In a time when breastfeeding was more common and other options were less prevalent there would have been a lot more support for a breastfeeding mom/babe with difficulties. It wouldn't be assumed that the only/best answer was to just give it up.

BTW... I meant to say thanks for the kind words earlier! :) I *did* start taking my Zoloft (and my prenatals ) again last night... adversion or no. I'll try to let you know when/if it 'kicks in' and I can shake a little of my over-hormonalness. I mean... I *am* preggo... so you expect some... but it's just getting to be a bit much.

Kristy

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 2:57pm

Because since all little girls from an early age would have seen breastfeeding happen, and would have had their moms around to help them out get started, and all your best friends (female) who had already had kids would know what BFing was like and how to resolve a myriad of issues, they could help you out way more than the hear-say of people who have only ever bottle-fed formula.

Fio

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:30pm

FYI, if a post doesn't contain quotes and you don't know what it was in reference to, you can click the link to the post number where it says "in response to".

Cathie

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:52pm

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Oooh, I did not know that! Thanks!

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:15pm

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It's such a catch-22. Sure, we want to get this information out; but by doing so, we're accused of making FF feel guilty.

Every time the topic of risks associated with FF comes up, I get this image of Jack Nicholson shouting "You can't handle the truth!"

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:29pm

I know this is a totally OT rant, but I so hear you on the housing market. Even with a college education (me) and a law degree (DH), we were still priced out of most of the middle class houses where we live (in the supposedly affordable Mid-West). We have a small house (not even 800 sq ft) in a nice neighborhood, but we're quickly outgrowing it. Problem is, we can't afford to move.

Some people managed to do well with the housing market, but it sure wasn't us. What a mess that turned out to be.

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:44pm

I do take fenugreek, drink mother's milk tea, eat oatmeal.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:31pm

Yeah, I keep saying to DH "if only we had stayed in Vancouver when we married 7 years ago...we could have afforded way more then". But I know, I know...you can't live by "what if's". :-(

Fio

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