"Proud Formula Feeder"?

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"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm

In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.

While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:57pm

<<#1 was a practice, #2 gives you a bit of a break particularily if you have them close together, so you can still take care of #1's neediness, and #3 is "bring it on baby, now you know what you're doing you'd better be able to handle ME!!">>

And #4+ is "Okay, I think these peeople have been through enough."

Really though, our #3 is hell on wheels. She was actually an easy baby (#2 had colic but after that she was "easy"), but now as a toddler she's rough aound the edges. She comes running and we all flinch. ;) But I was told a million times that after 3 things stay about the same. Stood true enough for us. I have three mommy helpers (and a daddy). I'm glad I breastfeed because otherwise he wouldn't even know which person in this crazy household to call mom! (well ok I do most the diaper changes too, but I'd rather he distinguish me as the one with the yummies, rather than the one who wipes his butt!)

Melissa - doin' my part!

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:40am
And #4+ is "Okay, I think these peeople have been through enough."



My #4 was, "You people think you have this parenting thing down...au contraire!"


Number 1 was hell on wheels. Number 2 was fairly easy, except for horrid reflux. Number 3 was Mr. Mellow.





Now #1 is still hell on wheels. Number 2 is Ms. Super Mellow even though she's 13. Number 3 has "un-mellowed" and is high strung. Number 4 still thinks she's the boss of the family.







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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 7:59am

>>I have TriCare (military insurance), and they do NOT cover homebirths, especially not in the Communistwealth of Virginia where I live (it's difficult to find licensed providers in this state that will attend homebirths, and the ones you CAN find aren't covered by TC).

If I gave birth in a military hospital (you couldn't pay me enough...), it would be free as far as I know....I've been to that hospital's ER three times and not had to pay a dime; don't know if L&D is different, but I'm reasonably certain it's free (Stacia would know better than I do). In a civilian hospital (only if circumstances warrant a transfer), it'd be fairly inexpensive, but I don't know the exact figures. I'll be coughing up well over $2000 for my midwife-assisted homebirth. <<

Really? Tricare said they wouldn't cover your birth even if your PCM referred you to the midwife? We used to do that all the time in Germany (albeit that's OCONUS, but still). When a mom wanted a homebirth or birth center birth she'd have her PCM refer her to a chosen midwife on the economy, and everything was covered. The magic was in the referral!

Your L&D at a military treatment facility would be 100% covered! Any other hospital co-pays might come into play depending upon your Tricare plan (and if you had not been referred to a civ hospital and for some reason birthed in one anyway, Tricare would cover nothing for you -- it's one of their rules). Prime beneficiaries at a military treatment facility are not supposed to pay anything. We're Tricare Prime Remote with a civilian PCM and we don't pay co-pay on anything but pharamacueticals (which I'm mad about, BTW lol). Tricare Standard has a ton of co-pay involved.

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 8:14am

>>Umm...in my limited "experience" (ie mainly watching other moms with their 3+ families of kids) quite often, but not always, #1 was relatively high-needs, #2 was mellow, and #3 was often higher needs than #1. It was like...#1 was a practice, #2 gives you a bit of a break particularily if you have them close together, so you can still take care of #1's neediness, and #3 is "bring it on baby, now you know what you're doing you'd better be able to handle ME!!" ;-).<<

AMEN!!!!!! That is my household. #1 is highstrung, high needs. #2 was my reward for #1 and is mellow and easy going. #3 is a Tazmanian Devil, tearing up my house, trying my patience, and pushing every limit lol!

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 8:18am

So far Kylie, other then having breast aversion and hating to be confined in anyway (ie, she did not like to be swaddled), I have to say she is a dream! She is very easy-going, very happy, very playful and eats anyting I put on her plate. She slept well at 2 and a half months, goes to bed easily, and generally is very easy to take care of. She now gives hugs, and loves to go outside.

I am SO nervous about number 2 because I cannot get this lucky the second time. My mother said she has no sympathy for me if I complain because Kylie is so good but she could be bias (although she is not totally off mark)!

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 8:59am

""Really? Tricare said they wouldn't cover your birth even if your PCM referred you to the midwife? We used to do that all the time in Germany (albeit that's OCONUS, but still). When a mom wanted a homebirth or birth center birth she'd have her PCM refer her to a chosen midwife on the economy, and everything was covered. The magic was in the referral!""


That's the key: getting a referral to a midwife who is licensed for and will do homebirths in this area is almost impossible.

Lori
**Navy Wife to Eddie since Dec 2002**

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:36am

As with others... just in the interest of keeping up the thread... ;)

"In real life, I am part of a Bfing organization and still don't hear a lot of negative thigns about formula."

I'm a true 'freak' right now... tandem nursing a nearly 3yo and a 1.5yo while preggo (20 weeks) with another. I had a friend *from LLL* look at me like I had three heads (instead of three boobs for my liter) and say "I don't think we've every had anyone in the group nursing three at a time!" I'm already feeling a tad overwhelmed by the idea... I don't need my bfing supportive buddies to turn on me!

Kristy

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:40am

I think that is amazing that you are nursing your children past a year and you know what, that is what is hard. First you are told to nurse, then you are nursing too long. My friend is nursing her 17 month old and her nursing pals think she has gone overboard.

If she enjoys it, then it is her business. She has also been there for me so I know why she feels the need to continue and I am proud of her.

Continue to nurse for as long as you are comfortable and your kids are...

GL and God Bless!

Spud...







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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 10:35am

I nursed three for awhile! I got pregnant with twins when my son was about a year old. He weaned during the pregnancy (when my supply dropped to next to nothing,) but asked to resume when he saw the babies nursing. He didn't continue for long...I think it was about 3 months of nursing 3 babies for me!

Keep up the good work!

Karin

 

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 10:38am

**Umm...in my limited "experience" (ie mainly watching other moms with their 3+ families of kids) quite often, but not always, #1 was relatively high-needs, #2 was mellow, and #3 was often higher needs than #1. It was like...#1 was a practice, #2 gives you a bit of a break particularily if you have them close together, so you can still take care of #1's neediness, and #3 is "bring it on baby,**

For me, #1 was extremely high needs, #2 was ridiculously easy, #3 was average, #4 came with #5....#4 was miserable from day one--she was born screaming and we're still waiting for her to stop seven years later, #5 was sweet as pie, but had pretty nasty reflux, so would puke on you whenever you tried to cuddle him. #6 is the boss, and always will be!

 

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