"Proud Formula Feeder"?

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"Proud Formula Feeder"?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:27pm

In my playgroup, I've noticed some members have a blinkie I haven't seen before: "Proud Formula Feeder". In the past, I've seen the "Formula Feeding Mom" and "It's formula, not rat poison", but this new one struck me as odd. I can understand simply stating that you formula feed or saying that formula isn't rat poison (because it isn't), but I've been trying to figure out just why someone would be "proud" to FF.

While I don't think that women should necessarily feel guilty about not BF, I don't get what about FF there is to be proud about. Most (or maybe even all) of the women with said blinkie acknowledge that breastmilk is better, so why would they be proud to feed their babies something they know is substandard, even if they couldn't BF and FF was their only choice? What do you ladies think? Is/should there be such a thing as FF pride?

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:25pm

Guess I'll chime in with the birth order thing:


My brother was #1...ridiculously easy.

Lori
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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:27pm

My MIL turned that around quickly and said at 10 mos that Sandrine (my oldest) was "too fat" and that too much milk isn't good and she'd stay that way. HAH!!! She's 6.5 and a skinnier child I have rarely seen except in starvation situations. ;-) She's all skin and bones and eats like a horse. :-P

Fio

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:33pm

MIne have switched back and forth. #1 was a super easy baby other than lots of doc and hospital visits. He would sleep hours at a time, took 2 naps daily, didn't WANT to co sleep, preferred his own crib and was just happy all the time. Now he is very difficult, at almost 6 still has tantrums and is generally defiant with us.

Number 2 was very difficult as a baby. He was a nightmare. Screamed much of the time, even in my arms, until he started crawling. Didn't sleep through the night until almost 1 but since then NEVER wakes up. Even when he's sick he stays in his bed. #1 always tries to get into our bed.

Number 3 is so-so. He has a brain malformation so some of his clinginess and screaming fits are probably headaches or other odd sensations. For the most part he is happy and easy though, going along with whatever and loving all the attention he gets from his brothers, even the negative!

I've seen that usually #3 is the easiest, most laid back one and I think they often have to be. They have a lot going on around them and don't need entertainment and also have to be shuffled around to lots of events.

Becca

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:34pm
LOL.

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:58pm
When my last was born, she weighed 7lbs 7oz. When she was 3 days old, I had to bring her back to the hospital for a blood test (the state lost her PKU card.) I had just come from the peds office as he'd wanted to see her since we left the hospital early. I got to the lab and the receptionist asked how much she weighs now. I told her 8lbs, 4oz. She said (very condescendingly), "No, honey, they LOSE weight at first." She wouldn't believe me and insisted on weighing her again. I'd just finished nursing her in the waiting room, and about 2 hours after weighing in at the doctor's office at 8'4, she was 8'10. LOL...I think my boobs eject pure fat.
 

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:58pm

Yeah, we get comments on Harry's facial expressions all the time. He does the funniest things with his eyebrows, and scrunching up his nose and face, and people crack up over it. Who knows, maybe he'll be on the stage one day. He certainly seems to have an artist's (demanding) temperament, and definitely loves all eyes to be on *him*.

It's fun to try to figure out what these little ones will become one day....

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 1:15pm

My husbnd and I have a theory: the easier the baby, the harder the toddler. As babies my kids are 1. Happy-go-lucky 2. Miss Miserable 3. "Mommy-fied" 4. Dream baby

As toddlers they have been:
1. Can't leave him alone for a second or he'll be into everything
2. A bit of a drama queen but is my little "den mother" who makes sure everyone is behaving
3. Devilish. She knows that she shouldn't but does it any way.

I am a little afraid of what #4 could have in store for us...

Melissa

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 1:24pm
Okay...you ladies are SCARING this mom-of-one. LOL! DH and I are TTC this year...if all goes well I'll be in on this conversation when this thread reaches 5000 posts or so...for now I only have #1, and he is the King of the household.

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You can hate me, but do it because you know me, not because I’m a member of a group. Anyways, people aren’t grapes --- you can’t weigh them in a bunch, but I guess it’s easier than dealing with people as individuals. There, I’ve solved the riddle of prejudice: it saves time.



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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 1:53pm

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Hmmmm.... you might have something there. LOL

#1. easy baby, happy all the time... dropped his naps around a year and morphed into an ADHD totally hyper toddler. I believe the term is "walking tornado".

#2. crabby baby, born mad, couldn't wait to crawl/walk/get into stuff. Fairly easy toddler compared to his super-charged older brother but still not "laid back" by any definition. Earned the nickname "scar" because he was always getting into stuff and getting hurt. My daredevil.

#3. easy baby (aside from health problems), grew into another ADHD toddler... he did help me stay skinny, since I never got to sit down or eat. LOL "The Thinker"

#4. high-needs baby, melodramatic toddler, nicknamed "Mr. McFeelie" because he always had to be touching you, rubbing your arm, touching your hair... drove me nuts! LOL He grew to be pretty easy-going... as long as things go his way... just don't try to butt heads with him. "Silent Volcano"

#5. even higher needs baby... had to sleep ON me for the first year or so due to chronic ear infections, excessively sensitive toddler who could dissolve into tears if you looked at her funny. Fortunately, she grew into a very pleasant, self-confident 7yo. :-) "Her Royal Highness"

#6. sooooo mellow from day one that I thought there was something "wrong" with her! (seriously!) It's a good thing she was so mellow, because she's had to spend her first year confined in braces and full body casts due to hip problems. (she's into her 4th week in her second cast... 8 1/2 weeks to go!) But as she enters her second year, I can see her getting a lot more feisty... I don't think she will stay "mellow" for long. Her favorite thing to do now is SQUEAL LOUDLY and wiggle her feet. (it's the only part of her legs she can move, but she gives it all she's got! LOL) I have a feeling we are going to be very, very busy in a few more weeks! My "Little Princess".

So to sum up... not an easy child in the bunch if you look past the "infant" stage. :-P That's ok, it keeps me busy.

Stephanie
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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 2:33pm

>>Yeah, we get comments on Harry's facial expressions all the time. He does the funniest things with his eyebrows, and scrunching up his nose and face, and people crack up over it. Who knows, maybe he'll be on the stage one day. He certainly seems to have an artist's (demanding) temperament, and definitely loves all eyes to be on *him*.
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That's my 2nd child Carissa, who's the older daughter. She's 5 1/2 and I have to watch out b/c she can feed me the biggest line of BS while keeping a totally innocent, straight face!

She's into ballet, tap, and pageantry! My family and friends raise eyebrows at the pageants, but we don't do the glitz ones (which is what you see on those documentaries and expose's -- with the $1200 dresses, wigs, make up, capped teeth, etc.) and she loves nothing more than changing into 4 different outfits in the span of a couple of hours . As much as I hate to admit it, it's her dream come true!!!! She's competing for Miss Cinderella next month and has already chosen her sunday dress, sportswear, and interview dress. Now it's up to mom to crochet the accessories and make the hairbows (I knit, crochet, and cross stitch, among other things, and sell some of my items in local boutiques; I won Best of Show for one of my baby ensembles at our county fair back in September). It's actually funny to see her with other girls her age b/c she's really, really short and slender. She'll be 6 in May and is only 41 inches tall and 33 lbs (chest is 19"!). Her clothes for the upcoming pageant are all 3T, and her shoes 9toddler! Her first day of kindergarten one of the other kids asked if she didn't belong in preschool and made a mistake! Poor kid...

I'm hoping she channels some of that toward drama or something creative...b/c goodness knows the kid cannot sing! Though she tries. She loves to read, and absolutely adores puzzles (my mom sends her ones from Germany all the time). No idea what she'll grow up to become, but I highly doubt she'll lose the Diva-tude :(.

My son Trevor is totally opposite of her. He likes nothing better than to read fanatasy books and perform "experiments." He'll be 9 in March and is reading on a 10th-11th grade level (right now he's reading Lord of the Rings, one of his Christmas presents). He couldn't care less what he wears and will try to convince me that there's nothing wrong with wearing the same pants 5 days in a row. He tries to play sports for the city, but he has no coordination and he's slow, so he gets benched most of the time :(. But I think the fact that he still wants to play and learn even though he's not the best ou there speaks volumes about hiim. I had a proud moment during basketball last week: he reached in to steal the ball from another kid and knocked his glasses off in the process. He went over, picked up the glasses, returned them, told the kid he was sorry, and shook his hand! I was grinning from ear to ear -- the other parents encourage their kids to get cut-throat and mean. He's also tall for his age at 52", but skinny as a rail at 55lbs! I have a feeling he'll do something with math or science, and he's probably always going to be a loner, he really likes to keep to himself.

And poor little 3 yo Elena...she's so shy. She's right in the middle of the older two, always trying to keep up, but never quite making it. I take her to playgroups and story time at the library and whatnot, but she just won't play with the other kids. She stands next to me with her eyes wide the entire time. I'm hoping that this will get better with time. But at home she's a hellion! She's into everything, drawing on walls and toys, pulling clothes out of drawers, toilet paper off the roll, flushing objects, trying to lay on teh dogs. My entire day is spent trying to keep her out of trouble! But she loves, loves, loves to make up stories and tell them to me lol, and she walks around the house singing made-up songs. I'm thinking she'll be a lawyer; all we get from her are arguments!




Edited 1/10/2007 2:38 pm ET by mrsmichael6300

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