Question for formula feeders

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Question for formula feeders
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 11:05am
Many of you have been heartily defending the "healthiness" of formula. Many of you say "we all know bm is best, but..." and then go on to give your reasons for ff. Here is my question: What does that mean to you as a ff when you say "breastmilk is best". What is best about it and why are you willing to forgo those benefits? (Or did you *have to* forgo the benefits because you had problems with bf?)

Danielle

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 11:36am
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Well......it's a statement of fact. Breastmilk contains living organisms that could never be packaged in infant formula even if they were able to replicate them. But, besides the health benefits I enjoyed the act of breastfeeding.

I chose to ff after what *I* thought was a worthy effort. *I* believed that it was better to choose formula than to continue on the path I was on.


christine


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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:05pm
To me, saying "breastmilk is best" means that it is the superior feeding choice over formula because breastmilk contains antibodies and offers a certain amount of immunity and protection that formula has not been able to duplicate.

I don't know that I would say I "had to" forego the benefits of BFing. I got a terrible case of mastitis that landed me in the hospital on IV antibiotics for four days, away from my 3 week old baby. My DH brought our camcorder to the hospital with some video he had taped of the baby each night, and I just cried, I missed him so badly. The thought of having this happen again and being separated from DS was just too much for me, so I decided to stop. I am sure, though, that a woman who felt more strongly about BFing and was more committed to it would likely have continued. I am happy with my decision - for me, it was the right thing to do.

I think the reason I do not feel guilty over my decision, and why I totally understand a woman who *chooses* to not BF at all is because I do not think the discrepancy between breastmilk and formula is all that great. Yes, BFing is the better choice, but I do not see it as *vastly* better. I truly believe that our own genetics, combined with our diet/lifestyle over a *lifetime* far outweighs whether we receive breastmilk or formula during the first year or two of life.

~Kim

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:16pm
I never got those commercials either....that state "breastmilk is best" blah, blah, blah use our formula. So does that mean the parents are OK with giving their child second best? I would think that would an offensive statement to most Mom's. Who wants to give their child second best? any thoughts?
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:27pm
I don't find it offensive at all. If I thought I had to give my child the "best" of everything, I'd feel awfully disappointed and guilty each and every day. My DS is the most precious thing in my life, and no one could love him more than I do. But I don't feel I need to hold myself up to some sort of "ideal" version of motherhood, that says I should do X, Y, or Z or I'm only second-best. I do what works "best" for my entire family, not for someone else's notion of what is best period.

~Kim

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:31pm
Actually Breastmilk was not "Best" for me. Yes, your baby gets the antibodies from mommy, but I honestly don't see that big of a difference between BF and FF. I did not enjoy BF at all and I'm glad I switched to formula. Looking around me,I don't see any indication either that my kids are worse off then BF kids. To the contrary, one of our attorneys just had to quit because her DD has a white blood cell disease that doesn't produce antibodies. She is sick all the time. And she is still BF I think at 20 months.

So I think that you can have healthy or sick kids on both, Formula and Breastmilk. And for my formula was best.

Ilka



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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 3:18pm
"Well......it's a statement of fact. Breastmilk contains living organisms that could never be packaged in infant formula even if they were able to replicate them" ITA
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 3:23pm
I am in the "had to" camp. Formula was the only practical alternative to breast milk. The only way to get donated breast milk in my area was with a doctors prescription (mainly used for premies or babies with extreme allergies whose mother's could not breastfeed) and it was prohibitively expensive And I had no friends who were lactating at the time (and could spare the extra milk). My major breast feeding problem revolved around my body's inability to do anything hormonally correct or on a timely basis (from getting menses, getting preggo, going into labor, producing colestrum or breast milk) . I used a very competent certified LC and she was wonderful. I also used a hospital grade pump to pump and bottle feed when my son was unable to suckle properly because he was so dehydrated/exhausted by the time my colestrum had finally decided to show up. If I had continued bfing, I would have had to supplement about 60-75%. I know that there are people out there who believe that any drop of bm is worth the effort, but *for me* my breaking point was at 50%. (I also experienced halucinations, uncontrollable shivers, 3 migraines a week, and moderate to severe ppd)

Things improved somewhat with my second ds (I actually had collestrum at birth and had several successfull breastfeeds the first few days), but we were faced with the additional challenge of an eight day nicu hospitalization. I pumped at night and bf during the day but my supply never came near to his requirements. (When I brought in my pumped milk from the first night home(day three of his life) - it was all of 20cc, the nicu nurse told me that I should pump more than once a night (I had pumped three times!!! to produce that amount!) Formula feeding ds#2 also enabled me to take an antidepressant that worked for me but was incompatible with breastfeeding.


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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 5:50pm
You've said this part PERFECTLY.....<>

I think those factors that you mentioned FAR, FAR surpass whether a child is bf or ff.

Eileen

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 6:16pm
So, would it be accurate to say that you feel "breastmilk is best, but formula is a close second?"

Danielle

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 6:18pm
So the provision of antibodies is the only benefit of breastfeeding?

Danielle

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