Should Lactivists feel guilty?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006
Should Lactivists feel guilty?
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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 3:59pm

The internet has article after article shaming Lactivists about how they make other people feel bad. Do you think they SHOULD feel guilty about their words and actions?

Snip-it from Lactivist Leanings:

Your words are hurting people and you need to acknowledge that and own your responsibility for the damage your words are causing. Your words are not a surgical airstrike that hits only the specific target you are aiming at. They are the verbal equivalent of buckshot and they hit much more than your intended target.

Here's a blip from the FFF:

However, I also think that certain facets of lactivism do veer into fascist territory (Nazism is a form of fascism, but other fascist regimes have thrived in Italy, Latin America, Indonesia, and Spain. In breastfeeding supremacy (thank you to the ever-brilliant Jessica Valenti for that far better and more PC term), the common enemy is the formula companies/breastfeeding-unfriendly physicians/formula feeders. The charismatic leaders are the “famous” and most intolerant breastfeeding advocates, people like Jack Newman, William Sears, Darcia Navarez, Gabrielle Palmer, and so forth. The military support comes from grassroots organizations and mommy blogs, who wield the power to call widespread boycotts of commercial products over WHO Code infractions. And the “higher ideals” are extreme, religious beliefs in the power of breastmilk and a conviction that breastfed babies will be stronger, healthier, smarter, and more beautiful human specimens.

from PhD i parenting:

The problem, however, is that instead of listing scientifically verifiable facts, she used loaded judgmental non-scientific terms like fake food and junk food and starvation diet to describe formula feeding and used vague (and to a great extent unproven) terms like ill health, depressed and lower intelligence to describe the impact of formula feeding on babies. Her remarks were, of course, also short on footnotes or other references.

Her aim, as she stated at the beginning of the post, was to “awaken more people to the dangers of infant formula.” In my experience, using loaded judgmental non-scientific terms isn’t a good way to awaken people. It is, however,  a really good way to get people to shut down and block out anything you have to say. It is also a really good way to get them angry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2002
Sat, 02-02-2013 - 7:51pm

Not guilty.  But let's call a spade a spade.  I breastfed...because I could.  My drs. and what I read on the internet scared me into it.  To this day (7 years after my last guy), I don't know that breastmilk made a difference.

What I do know is that it has to be difficult to work full-time and pump or BF.  It was easy for me to BF because I was at-home with my babies for years.  Let's call a spade a spade.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 11:20am

From the article posted:

<<In my experience, using loaded judgmental non-scientific terms isn’t a good way to awaken people. It is, however,  a really good way to get people to shut down and block out anything you have to say. It is also a really good way to get them angry.>>

I agree! Scaring people is not the answer.

thardy2001 posted:
<<What I do know is that it has to be difficult to work full-time and pump or BF. >>

I agree with this as well - for outside the home work. I can't imagine having to leave my babies and go out to work. I found a work-around by working form home, and always keeping my babies with me.

I don't know if it would have gotten better with time if I had worked at it - but the few times I did try to pump, my body did not respond and it was more work than it was worth to me.

<<I breastfed...because I could. It was easy for me to BF because I was at-home with my babies for years.>>

In my own experience, it was not easy for me - at times it was extremely difficult and trying. But I did it  anyways...