So what are benefits of FF for baby?

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So what are benefits of FF for baby?
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:56pm

Reading the post below - benefits to formula - made me think of a new question.


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 12:46pm

It is never SAID that BFing Moms are the only GOOD ones but sometimes it comes off that way - BFing advocates can come off as so baffled how a Mom could choose any other way - even when that other Mom has good reasons.


And you should do what *is* right - for your own family. And THAT is not always going to be BFing.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 12:49pm

"Here's a memory for me to celebrate DD's first birthday (!!!) with -- sitting on the sitz bath, manually pumping to relieve engorgement enough for DD to latch on (our hospital actually gave free manual pumps to every mother), DH standing there with a hungry

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:15pm

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Wow, sounds like you just saw the word Swastika and ran with it like I was discriminating against you! My reference was not that of thinking BF'rs are german nazi terroriststs! Seriously, way to take a meaning waaaaay out of context. i think you all knew what I meant and incase you didn't this IS what I meant. That you all gang up on ff'rs like an Army of rabid banshees and go on the attack when anyone tries to defend their opinions on FF.


And in response to a differents thread where someone implied that I didn't think BF was best....


I want you to quote exact words where I said that. if you read my ORIGINAL post I stated that I pumped! OBVIOUSLY, I knew the benefits of breastmilk otherwise I would not have pumped! I was not comfortable

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:23pm
Thank you! :) As Sandi said, I coach debate for a living. Arguing on bb's helps keeps me sharp in the off-season. It was also really good for fighting pregnant brain.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:38pm
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:38pm

"BFing advocates can come off as so baffled how a Mom could choose any other way - even when that other Mom has good reasons"


I am baffled why a mom would choose to FF in most circumstances & in most the reasons are not *good* just ignorant or mis-informed(not talking about you).

Andi


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:42pm

"And not that it's anyones business, I had decided weeks ago to BF my second child (due in dec) while my husband is deployed, but you ladies make me not want to do it at all! So with all of your facts and opinions on breastfeeding, it's your attitude that turn people away from it!"


WOW, just wow.

Andi


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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 1:56pm

"It is never SAID that BFing Moms are the only GOOD ones but sometimes it comes off that way - BFing advocates can come off as so baffled how a Mom could choose any other way - even when that other Mom has good reasons."

I actually think it's a hallmark of motherhood, unfortunately. Just because it comes off that way doesn't mean that it's intended that way. After all, couldn't you have said that about any controversial parenting topic- ap vs ezzo, circ vs no circ, cd vs disposables, working vs sahm, the list is endless.

"Why is it right for people to tell me I SHOULD BF when I know that BFing is not what is right for me or my family."

I would say it's perfectly reasonable for people to have opinions about your personal situation, especially when you post said personal situation as an argument on a debate board. I think it's worth noting that since no one else gets more money by telling you to bf, or indeed gets anything out of it, they're probably telling you because they want to help.

It's unfortunate that you feel judged by people over your decision, but I think that it just goes with the territory of sharing your experiences with other adults. If you had posted this on my EC or PG, I would not have argued with your decision unless you had posted in the Hot Topics folder. There are forums for debate, and some places are not forums for debate. As such, I did not argue with the woman who told an overwhelmed new mother that her life would be so much easier if she just quit breastfeeding- she'd get more sleep at night and have more time to herself. As much as that statement just got under my skin, I said nothing because it was not the forum in which to argue with her.

"But, just because someone makes the choice to FF does not mean they didn't read and research. You have to factor in a lot of things when you make that kind of choice."

I'm sure that there are lots who do. But there are lots who don't. If the lively, delightful poster we were engaging in debate last night is any indication, we've got our work cut out for us.

I think that any group that is in the minority, especially in terms of parenting, will take a lot of flak from the majority, especially if the minority decision shows serious benefits to the child but an increased workload for the parents. For example, I use cloth diapers. I actually had to be flexible and use disposables for the first few weeks because E was a lot smaller than expected and none of my cloth diapers fit her. When I have told people that I use cloth diapers, I usually get something between bewildered awe and outright disgust in response. Apparently, cloth diapers are just as bad for the environment, are way more expensive than disposables, give babies more diaper rashes, are too difficult/complicated to use, and are just generally icky. All of these statements are, for the most part, incorrect.

So why do people say these things to me? Because they're afraid of difference. I have a different opinion and a different way of doing things than they do, which comes across to some of them as me acting superior, when I genuinely don't care what they put on their baby's butt. Some of them, I'm sure, especially the ones who are past their diapering days, are worried that maybe I really do have the measure of things. Maybe cloth diapers would have saved their baby from recurrent diaper rash or yeast infections, if they had only bothered to try them. But since they can't turn back time on their decision, they criticize mine.

Do I fault them for it? Of course not. I do the same thing from time to time, I'm sure- perhaps about my decision to deliver in a hospital when so many women have a wonderful time delivering at a birth center or at home. It's human to want to belong to the larger group, and when in the larger group, to criticize the actions of the smaller group so that one does not appear to be in the wrong.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:04pm

I dont know if I was have choosen anything that the best thing we can say about it is its Adequate.


I kind of like "The norm" or "The Perfect source of nutrition" or even "Best for the baby"

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:13pm

I'd like to take this time and address some myths in your post..


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Obviously not, considering there are no benefits to BM.

 

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