Starting a new thread re:smoking and BF
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|Thu, 03-27-2003 - 5:08pm|
Okay, so I started a new thread because my eyes are going nutty with all the ones in the other post. I hope nobody minds.
Regarding smoking and BF.....
After thinking more on the issue and taking into account all the discussion, I must say that I am torn. I have a very good friend who smokes and BF. She goes outside, puts on layers of clothing, smokes, removes the layers, washes her hands intensely...and then goes back to her baby. She is absolutely the most over-protective mother I know. She did not smoke during her pregnancy, but she said she knew there was a "light at the end of the tunnel"...she is immensely addicted to smoking. She didn't tell me for a very long time that she smoked because she was afraid I was going to judge her and look down upon her. After having her baby and deciding to BF, the lactation consultant told her it was MUCH BETTER to smoke and BF than to FF. This is someone whom she trusts and respects and who is very knowledgable about BF'ing. So my friend took up smoking again.
I have never been addicted to anything so it is easy for me to say, "Well, just quit!". But after talking to my friend, I know that it just isn't that easy. She WANTS to quit...she says to me everyday how she wants to quit...and I truly believe her, but she is ADDICTED and it is not easy. She has described to me how awful it feels to NEED something the way she does. I asked her what it feels like to crave a cigarette and then what it feels like afterwards...she said to me that afterwards she just feels "normal again". Before she has that cigarette she feels like she is ready to jump out of her skin and go crazy.
Now as far as BF and smoking....my friend was told by a medical professional she trusts that BF and smoking was better than FF and smoking. If Mom is going to smoke regardless, which is better? It's tough to say. I think both sides hold risks. I can see both sides of the issue.
As for my friend, I just try to support her and tell her that she is going to struggle with cravings the rest of her life (she probably will), but that I am here for her and I want her to succeed. I try to be as supportive as possible. She knows it's an ugly habit, she knows it's horrible for her health, she knows that she might develop cancer because of it, and she may be ill or die prematurely because of it and she has to deal with that everyday. She WANTS to quit and she is trying. I will do anything I can to support her in her goal to quit. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd happily take them.