A story to share....

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A story to share....
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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 4:43pm
Hello, all. I've been visiting with Christine on the Welfare Debate board, which is how I knew this board was here. My dh and I went out with some friends of ours this weekend and we had a conversation that I had to share here.

The lady and her husband have a 2-month old son. He is such a doll. Anyway, somewhere in the conversation, breastfeeding came up. She said she had tried it at the hospital, but just didn't feel comfortable with it and switched to bottlefeeding before they were discharged. Apparantly, two weeks after they returned home, a nurse from the hospital called and berated her for not breastfeeding. Wanted to know why she had chosen the bottle, did she try breastfeeding, why it didn't work, etc. She was very upset and as she was already suffering from mild PPD, this made matters much worse.

I agree that breastfeeding is the best for a baby, and it's cheap, LOL. But don't you think it should still be each mother's choice? A new mom should not be made to feel like a bad mom just because of how she chose to feed her child. She also said that during her pregnancy, she felt like she was being "forced" into breastfeeding by the dr. and nurses. I just think this is so sad.

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 4:59pm

Hey there:)


Yes, it is sad.


~christine~

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 6:26pm
I think it's people like that nurse that give bf'ers a bad name. If I was her I would have really GONE OFF on that nurse and also told her supervisor. (I'm a ff'er, but it just ticks me off when someone shoves their beliefs down your throat-no matter WHAT it may be).

Yes, it should be a mother's choice. No one should tell you how to feed your child. It's a personal decision just like how many kids a person wants to have.

Hope you stick around!

Jeanie

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 7:06pm

Welcome to the board!

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 7:41pm

My old college roommate had a similar experience, and it really turned her off completely to BFing. She was trying it in the hospital, and the nurses there were putting tremendous pressure on her (actually saying things like, "Don't you want to do what's best for your baby?" and "It's not about you anymore, it's about your son"). She was a first-time mom, and totally overwhelmed and guilt-ridden

~Kim

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 9:01pm
Sorry to hear your friend went though that. It was very wrong of the nurse to act that way and I would have called the hospital and filed a formal complaint. But this is a debate baord and we are here to debate bottle vs breast and that is what we do. It doesn't matter that we (most here anyway) agree it is a mothers choice. When you come to a debate board you should expect to debate what ever the topic is and not expet those on the other side to agree with you. If they did what fun would a debate board be? Sounds like a surport to me and I do not come here for surport.

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 9:23pm
i'm sure many can share anecdotal stories that go the other way. just a few i've heard.

-"oh, don't worry about feeding the baby at night, we'll give him a bottle of formula..no worries, it won't effect your supply, integrity of the lactoferrin, etc."

-"here, don't forget this case of formula - most people switch after 3 mos."

-and my personal favorite that my college room mate endured. "well, if he hasn't latched on yet (day 2), he'll NEVER BF let me get you a bottle." (by the by, he nursed for 13 mos, but it took 3 days before he ever latched).

i could go, but you get my drift. it really goes both ways.

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 11:52pm

No it doesn't. Bfers are evil breast pushers that get a kick out of walking around telling everyone they see


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Tue, 11-11-2003 - 8:04am

It really does go both ways and I don't think anyone here will claim that it doesn't.

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Tue, 11-11-2003 - 8:23am
"would never dream of giving misleading info just to get the baby to use formula"

LOL...this was funny April. Often it's just that that happens...someone with absolutely NO experience with bfing (except what their DH's boss's wife's SIL had happen to them) pipes up with some wonderful bit of information that ought to be just what is needed...like "if you pump less often you get more at each pumping session". ;-)

Fio.

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Tue, 11-11-2003 - 8:26am

<<"i could go, but you get my drift. it really goes both ways.">>


Yes, and I don't recall ever saying that it didn't.

~Kim

"Becoming a parent means agreeing to allow your heart to go walking around outside of your body."

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