Tongue tied Infants

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Tongue tied Infants
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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 11:13am

What are some reasons parents are weary of clipping a tongue tie infant? Just curious. I know on the circumcision board it was brought up, however I forget what was said. I think that some parents think that any alteration of the infant is wrong no matter what the reasons are. Even ear piercing was brought up and I have to say it was shocking to me that so many feel so strongly about parents who chose to pierce ears in infancy. I do not feel that it is wrong anymore then choosing anything else when it comes to parenting. For 18 years you get to call the shots, and some may have a bigger impact then others and should be decided based on risk. However, I digress...

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 11:53am

When Josh was found to have tongue-tie, no one explained to me how simple and painless it would be to fix. So I was afraid to cause him pain that at the time I thought was unnecessary. The dr said his latch was good, and he was gaining well, so I thought it did not matter.

Looking back I wish I had done it. He could not even touch his gums at first. We encouraged him to stick out his tongue as a baby and eventually he could at least touch his gums with his tongue. But there are some words he cannot pronounce properly, and he doesn't have the mobility of his tongue that he would have if I had gotten him clipped.



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Registered: 11-29-2005
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:17pm

I've often thought it was weird that parents were hesitating to clip tongue ties when they had no second thought about circ, which is much more invasive.


Tongue tie takes less than 5 minutes and baby can nurse immediately after.

 


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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:18pm

Some "alterations" improve an infant's quality of life, such as clipping the tongue tie, and would fall under correcting a birth defect rather than "altering the child's body" as I see it.

Those discussions can get very ... interesting sometimes. ^_^

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:48pm
TBH I had never heard of a parent not wanting to clip a tongue, but then, I don't go to the circ debate board, so if it's only stated there, that would explain it.
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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:56pm

~~I've often thought it was weird that parents were hesitating to clip tongue ties when they had no second thought about circ, which is much more invasive.~~

For me that was not true - I equated the idea of clipping his tongue-tie with circ and because of that I could not clip his tongue any more than I could circ him.



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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 1:30pm

"For me that was not true - I equated the idea of clipping his tongue-tie with circ and because of that I could not clip his tongue any more than I could circ him."

And now?

Knowing the effect of tongue-tie on bfing and the importance of bfing, would you respond differently today?

Would it have made a difference if someone pointed out the "correcting of a defect" and how it would help bfing at the time?

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 2:25pm

>> I had a much harder time convincing my doctor(s) to clip ODS' tongue tie. They discovered it almost immediately in the hospital, but then refused to clip it. After I got out (4 days, and 2 extremely sore nipples later), I called 2 pedis, who also refused to do it, and said I needed to find an ENT. The *soonest* appt I could even get w/an ENT was when he was 11 days old (and 7 more days of sore nipples, one "severely lacerated" one, pumping, crying, giving up to EP for 24 hrs, then starting nursing again, later). Then when I got to the ENT, *he* almost wasn't gonna do it. He told me, "This isn't severe enough to be affecting BFing, but since *you* insist it is, I guess I will do it." I have no idea why all the hesitancy. When he finally did it, I was like, "THAT WAS IT?! THAT WAS WHY I WENT THROUGH ALLLLLL THAT MISERY?!?!" It seriously took like 5 seconds, numbing included. The baby cried more at the utter "nerve" of me holding him down than the actual procedure. Going through what I went through, and, knowing it can cause speech and other issues later in life, then seeing how easy the procedure is, I have no idea why a parent wouldn't want it done.<<

This was very similar to my experience. Basically, several doctors told me: (1) that tongue-clipping was a surgical procedure that "wasn't worth the risk," (2) that it wasn't necessary for BFing to work (not that they had any other ideas for me about how to get it to work), (3) that it wouldn't necessarily help with BFing anyway, (4) that they wouldn't do it, and (5) that they wouldn't recommend I find someone else to do it. And then when I decided to do it against the doctors' advice, it took forever before I finally got an appointment with a pediatric ENT (who grudgingly agreed to do it despite saying that he wouldn't normally do it for a baby unless the tongue-tie was more severe than DD's was). Then they did it, and it was NO BIG DEAL AT ALL, and I was like, "Why the *$#%! didn't they do this at the hospital???!!!"

When my husband and I heard from doctors that it was unnecessary and wouldn't really work anyway, we did have a conversation comparing it to circumcision (which my husband is vehemently against), and our initial take was that we didn't think we wanted to do an "unnecessary" "surgical procedure" on our baby. It was only after doing more research that we changed that view, but I imagine many parents wouldn't have.

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 2:37pm

~~And now? Knowing the effect of tongue-tie on bfing and the importance of bfing, would you respond differently today?~~

Knowing what I know now, I would not hesitate to get it done. I feel very fortunate that it did not affect his BFing - and had no idea the risk I was taking in not getting him cut.

~~Would it have made a difference if someone pointed out the "correcting of a defect" and how it would help bfing at the time?~~

I am not sure - I thought at the time he was perfect just as he was. And my sister has an un-cut tongue-tie and I did not think it affected her life. However, since that time she has developed a swallowing problem, that I have read could be connected to tongue-tie.

I think if someone had told me how simple of a procedure it was, and that it could still affected his ability to BF even though his latch seemed fine at the time and how it might affect his adult life, I might have given it more consideration at the time.



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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 6:39pm
I've changed a few of my views over time and with new knowledge.
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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 7:07pm

I've had a similar experience, with our family practioner not thinking that clipping Toby's tongue was important.

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