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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 7:40am

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 8:47am
1. If you are a ff and your dd decided to bf...would you be ok with that? If you were a bf and your dd decided to ff...would you be ok with that? (same with daughter in laws for either side).

Really, I've done both (DD#1 was both BF & FF & DD#2 is/was BF only) although I'd like to be mature enough to handle it, I think I would be disappointed if they didn't at least try to BF if they were able. Ultimately it would be their decision & I would respect them enough to support whatever choice they made, but if they chose not to BF because they just didn't want to/feel like it, I would wonder what went wrong.


2. What made you decided to ff or bf? And for bf'ers, health benefits aside....were you raised with bf'ing in your family? Are you the first one who bf' in your family...were you pushed into it by your family....etc, etc.

After much thought & weighing in of the "evidence" I felt like BF was the best way to go. NOONE in my family BF so I wasn't pushed into it ;). Although my family isn't "open" about their displeasure, the subtle gestures/comments/tone of voice really clues you in. My uncle will leave the room if I start to nurse. My grandmother has said to Sierra, "you don't need to do that-referring to BF". Fortunately, I have the strength to let it roll off & just ignore it.

J&S

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 9:09am

My turn!


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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 9:13am

I have a question for you and I am NOT trying to slam you, I am just trying to understand.


Why would you wonder if something went "wrong" if your dd's (dil's) decided not to bf simply because they didn't want to?

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 9:13am
You want to know something funny, I was thinking of posting a similiar question. If my daughters or DILs decided to ff, I will admit to feeling disappointed but I would never let them know I felt that way and would support them in whatever they choose. My 11 yo is already saying she will bottlefeed when she gets older, which surprises me that she already thinks this.

What made me decide to breastfeed? I never thought of doing it any other way. I do come from a family of mostly breastfeeders but my mom ff me. No one pushed me to breastfeed. I also choose natural childbirth, when most of the women in my family thought I was crazy for not choosing the drugs.I also homeschool my kids and I am a pioneer in that effort believe me;)~Lisa

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 9:20am
I hope to raise daughters who make up their own minds about things. I fully expect them to make some different decisions than I would about things. I won't take it personally if they don't make all the same parenting decisions that I do. I think some people probably think of it as saying their kids thought they made bad choices.(Not saying Jess feels this way.)Jmo, Lisa
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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 11:49am

<<1.


~christine~

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 1:34pm
Why would you be disappointed? Is it because you may not get to feed the baby? I just don't get why it would disappoint you since breast is best for baby. What kind of advice would you give?~Lisa
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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 2:32pm
I could be wrong, but knowing Christine...I think that might have been a typing error.

Misty

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 3:53pm
Ah, my thoughts got ahead of my typing;)

~christine~

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 3:54pm
Yes, it was....thanks Wendy!!

~christine~

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